@xorlaliplange Not to talk of the glaring generational trauma passed on to these people. It has just been three generations ago when the state institutionalised racism. Let's not pretend the current AAs we see didn't grow up in households with grandparents who lived the the oppression.
Say no to low-quality relationships. If it's one-sided, no. If they don't reciprocate, no. If they're inconsistent, no. If they're unsure about you, no. If they lie or cheat, no. If their words don't match their actions, no. If they don't apologize and change their behavior, no.
@MindTendencies2 Signs of Manipulation:
. They use your weakness against you
. They are witty and ready to argue
. They use guilt trips
. They gaslight you to create self-doubt
. They protect their feelings onto you
. They give you silent treatment
. They judge and criticize their victims
Your partner coming to you about something you did wrong is not a personal attack. It’s a healthy sign they value the relationship and want to make it work – it's a heads up. You communicate, you fix it, you stay. That's emotional maturity. That's commitment. That's love.
Privacy is power and protection. Keeping your personal life and conflicts private and not telling everyone your side of the story when toxic people play the victim and portray you as the villain in their story is top tier self-care.
A sign of low empathy is when we reduce or shame others when they think, believe, react or feel differently than us in difficult situations. Please know we each have our own unique capacity, are working through our own unique struggles & experiencing life thru our own unique lens
Trans people have always been a fundamental part of HIV history and continue to be staunch allies in the fight for progress today.
This #TransAwarenessWeek, we’re focusing on their contributions which show a way forward — a future that is trans inclusive.
#IStandWithTrans
Empathy without boundaries is self-destruction. Unconditional love doesn't mean unconditional tolerance. You gotta train your boundaries to be stronger than your gentle heart and your mind to be stronger than your feelings. Takers have no limits, your boundaries are their limits.
@YellzDan Might it be a defence mechanism ? To prevent yourself from self regulating around familiar people ? I tend to avoid making random acquaintances when i move into a neighborhood. This prevents me from any sort of accountability to strangers especially with respect to my sexuality