I tell men to get their lives together before trying to date and I’m always met with backlash. It never registers to them how much leverage they’ll have in the dating market by doing so. A man that can lead, protect, provide, is knowledgeable, has his finances, career, physique, and mental in order is a prize that’s highly sought after. Most men do not have these things and you set yourself apart from them by doing having them. The men that have done this understand it and don’t have to tolerate any of the bs most of these men have to deal with with these women. Women can’t resist a man with these traits as long as he doesn’t make it his personality and becomes entitled because of it.