i’m not overwhelmed b/c i can’t handle things
i’m overwhelmed b/c i do handle them.
The responsibilities. The mental load. The emotions. The things nobody else sees or thinks about
i carry it, i figure it out, i keep everything going & that’s exactly y it gets heavy sometimes!
Please be with a man who thinks everything special to you is a big deal. Your birthday ? A big deal. Fav food? Big deal. Fav flowers? A BIG deal.
You in general ? A BIG deal
This girl on Tiktok said “if God puts me in your life, it's to love and heal you because God knows that's all I know how to do with good intentions and never half love you.” I felt that wholeheartedly.
People hate that they can't humble me. Ain't nothing you say or do gonna’ ever make me feel smaller. Try that weak shxt on somebody who ain't built like me.
My man told me something the other day that lowkey rearranged my brain a little.
He said, “I’m not here to control you. I’m not your father, I’m your partner. You’re grown, you can make whatever choices you want. Just know every choice comes with consequences. If you pick something that hurts what we built, that decision belongs to you.”
Then he goes, “I’m always gonna tell you when something hurts me or crosses a boundary, because that’s how real communication works. But if I show you where the line is and you keep stepping over it, then you’re not protecting us… you’re just choosing yourself.”
And yeah… that’s when it clicked for me. Accountability in a relationship isn’t yelling, rules, or control. It’s someone giving you freedom and trusting you to care enough not to misuse it.
Once I mentally separate myself from a situation you'll never get the same me again. You gotta do right by me the first time around bc my mental detachment doesn't allow for a reconnection.