i hate it when people are strict at a games night because my favourite thing to do at games is cheat. monopoly. charade. whot. ludo. i will cheat. we are adults now and it’s okay to cheat. it’s part of the fun.
First in my bloodline to witness women discovering new angles to show their nyash.
If I travelled back in time to tell my clan about this they’d burn me at the stake for making it up!
A friend of mine in Switzerland 🇨🇭, Luca, once told me something that stayed with me.
He liked a lady in Zurich.
They used to talk almost every day. Nothing too serious but you know when communication has started carrying small hope.
One evening, he asked her if they could go out properly, not just random coffee after work.
She laughed and said:
“Luca, you are too reserved for me. I like men who are more spontaneous.”
He didn’t argue.
He just said okay.
The painful part was that he actually believed that was the problem.
So he started questioning himself.
Maybe I am too calm.
Maybe I don’t talk enough.
Maybe I should be more outgoing.
Maybe I should start doing too much just to look interesting.
A few months later, he saw her in Lausanne with another guy.
The guy was quieter than him.
This man barely spoke throughout the dinner. He sat there, nodded, smiled small and allowed her to do most of the talking.
The same silence she called “too reserved” in Luca had suddenly become “peaceful” in another man.
That day, Luca understood life.
Sometimes, people are not rejecting the attitude.
They are rejecting the person.
When they like you, your silence is maturity.
When they don’t like you, your silence is boredom.
When they like you, your simplicity is humility.
When they don’t like you, your simplicity is lack of ambition.
When they like you, your busy schedule means you are focused.
When they don’t like you, it means you don’t have time for them.
This is why you should not rebuild your entire personality because one person did not choose you.
Sometimes, nothing is wrong with you.
You are just not the person they want.
And that is okay.
Accept it with dignity and move.