Wrapped up an incredible two days of the Stroke Program in Neurorecovery (SPiN) Workshop. Trainees in the field of stroke research from around the world toured facilities at Foothills Medical Centre and the Alberta Children’s Hospital
An incredibly moving lecture by Sandy and Larry Varcoe, the 2024 Nieboer Lecture winners! Sandy and Larry have been advocating for people who have experienced stroke and their families for more than 30 years
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I'm going to tell you a story about making a new friend
She's next to me now and I’m writing these notes in a yoga class
Here is what it feels like to make a fast friend:
The closeness comes quick
You talk, you play, you laugh, you share little glances of understanding
You feel like you're both on the same wavelength
You have an unspoken understanding
It feels like a cheat code
Do you know what I mean?
Have you ever had this with someone new?
You jump around topics and the eye contact is solid
You interrupt each other and tell stories and jokes
Congratulations you are now in the New Friend Bubble
It feels so good and it feels like home
It is rare by the way but I want you to know it can happen
I think about my friends like Sameer, Codie, Hailee, Neville, Tynan, Mallory, Nina, Zach, Derek, Michael, and a dozen others
And how I'm warm in my heart to meet a new fast friend here in a faraway land
//
This is Alicia and she lives in Bangalore, India
She's a famous artist and illustrator
She's also an excellent yapper and chatter
Our mutual friend Derek Sivers introduced us
Now she and I are fast friends
First we met for coffee then I have joined her for yoga
She invites me to pick up her son from school and we’ll visit her home and her husband
In the car I ask her about why we’ve become these new fast friends
"It takes two," she says, "and some people invite it. Plus chattiness helps and you’re good at that."
I wonder if this can be learned
Can you can teach someone how to chat and to yap?
Asking questions is important but you can’t ask too many
You have to tell your own stories and not make it an interview
The gift of gab comes with practice
Alicia is an introvert and she loves 1-on-1 conversations
“I hate parties,” she tells me, “I could never do what you do.”
But I hate most parties, too, and that’s why I wrote my book
We are in a bubble now. She and I have talked for hours
//
The next day we meet and I’m still thinking about this
I ask her: What makes someone special and pure and like you want to see them again?
“I like people who are strange and people who are different. That’s how we learn and grow to get new perspectives.”
Alicia is always smiling
She has a tiny turquoise stud on her nose
I push her to tell me more about friendship because I want something to write about
She tells me about a best friend that she she doesn’t get to meet as often
“You have kids and then for some people everything changes. I thought I knew about life but this one I never predicted.”
They both got married, had kids, COVID, a new job, a new part of town
The best friend just sort of regressed to an acquaintance
It wasn’t planned or malicious - it was just circumstance
The thing that she misses most is not knowing how she’s doing
“I give her that grace when I reach out and I don’t need her to reply. We’re just not friends anymore. But I do wonder how she’s doing.”
I ask Alicia if it is like a breakup and if she misses her now
“No,” she tells me. “I missed her but I didn’t feel a hole in my life… it is not like with a lover where that is your heart and soul.”
I’ve had my own losses and feeling like someone I could love is slipping away
“What I miss is that we had this thing,�� she tells me. “We had this ritual of yoga and dosa and gossip. It was set in our schedule almost every week. I craved it like no other. That meeting with her was a star on my timeline.”
We sit in silence and I think to myself and I’m sad for those transitions
But Alicia is always smiling
“That’s change and it’s fine! I still love her as a person and the new life she’s made. Our lives don’t intertwine like they used to. But she’s still a phone call away.”
//
So that is making a new friend and losing a bestie
Both are experiences of the human condition
I tell Alicia something I once heard
You can be friends with someone for a reason, a season, or a lifetime
We know that not all friendships have to last forever
Some are single-serving and they can light up your life
Fast friends are priceless and they feel so good
And then some can get so deep that their inevitable loss might make you sad
The lesson I hope to share is to look for the fire and to lean in when you can
And then to be thankful for the good times when life moves on
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The #WFOT2022 students’ forum panel discussion on Professional Identity (PI) Development (PID) was a very informative session. It aimed to let students see how their PID begins as students and how it continues even after graduation:
Key messages are below: (NB: A thread)
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