๐จ ๐๐ญ๐๐ญ๐๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ข๐๐๐ง๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ ๐๐ข๐๐๐ง ๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ ๐๐ข๐ฆ๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ญ๐ญ:
A poet of paradise, Jimmy Buffett was an American music icon who inspired generations to step back and find the joy in life and in one another.
His witty, wistful songs celebrate a uniquely American cast of characters and seaside folkways, weaving together an unforgettable musical mix of country, folk, rock, pop, and calypso into something uniquely his own.
We had the honor to meet and get to know Jimmy over the years, and he was in life as he was performing on stage โ full of goodwill and joy, using his gift to bring people together.
Over more than 50 studio and live albums and thousands of performances to devoted Parrot Heads around the world, Jimmy reminded us how much the simple things in life matter โ the people we love, the places weโre from, the hopes we have on the horizon.
A two-time Grammy nominee and winner of multiple country music awards, he was also a best-selling writer, businessman, pilot, and conservationist who championed the waters and Gulf Coast that he so loved.
Jill and I send our love to his wife of 46 years, Jane; to their children, Savannah, Sarah, and Cameron; to their grandchildren; and to the millions of fans who will continue to love him even as his ship now sails for new shores.
What Is A Ruckus?
My secretary called and said there was a ruckus in the front hallway. I was really excited to see what was going on. I wanted to know what a ruckus was. I learned that a ruckus was a small boy I hadnโt net yet. The ruckus was ripping our bulletin board off the wall, knocking over a table and cursing.
He turned around & said, โWhat the F--- are you looking at?โ He continued, โYouโre fat, bald, and stupid.โ I responded with, โYou seem to be upset. What do you need? How can I help?โ He moved a step closer to me and said, โAre you deaf, too? I just said youโre fat, bald, and stupid.โ
My response was, โI heard you just fine. Now I really can tell you are upset. What do you need? How can I help you?โ He started crying while re-stating for the 3rd time (in case I missed the other two times), โYouโre fat, bald, and stupid.โ He then said, โI hate this stupid school; I donโt know why Iโm here. I donโt know where my mom is. I hate my foster family.โ
He reached his arms out. I asked if he needed a hug and he nodded. I then asked if he wanted to go to my office. He nodded. I let him know that โDr. Pโ is here if he needs anything. He sat at my table and put his head down.
He looked me in the eyes and said, โDr. P, Iโm very sorry for everything that I did. I just miss my mom.โ I responded by telling him that I appreciate his apology and that I accept it. He then said, โI am also really sorry for calling you those mean things. I didnโt mean it.โ
We brainstormed some ideas of what he could do in the future if he was having a tough day. He suggested that he could ask to get a drink, ask for help, or just put his head down. I let him know that these are great strategies. I added that he could always ask to see the counselor or me.
We then discussed how he could be on the lookout for signs that he was getting upset, frustrated, angry, or agitated. He said that he sometimes started to clinch his fists and his breathing changed. I told him that those were good signs and that the body often gives us signs that we are starting to get upset. We both agreed that it was so important to listen to our bodies.
He asked if he could get his backpack and coat. I thought that was an unusual request for 10 a.m. I asked him why he would need his backpack and coat. He replied, โBecause Iโm going to get suspended like I did at my last school.โ I let him know that there may be another plan. He scrunched his face and looked puzzled.
I asked, โHow do you think you could fix what you did this morning?โ He thought about it for a minute or so and responded with, โI can pick-up what I threw and fix anything that I broke.โ I let him know that this seemed like a good plan. He picked up the items that he threw and helped put the bulletin board back on the wall.
I went over the plan for the next time and we made sure he knew what to do in case he got upset, frustrated, angry or agitated again. I said, โSince weโve agreed on the plan, letโs shake on it to make it official.โ He reached out his hand and shook mine. I let him know that he could go back to class. He picked up his bookbag and his jacket and started off to his class. I called his teacher to let him know that he was on his way. His teacher was so happy to welcome him back to class. I never had another problem with him.
A teacher stopped by later that day. She couldnโt understand why he wasnโt suspended. โHe called you fat, bald, and stupid.โ My response was that it never was about me. I then asked the teacher if any of the comments were false. She looked at me like I was crazy. I let her know that I am fat and bald. Those were both true statements. I also argued that stupid is a relative term. She didnโt like my answer.
How do you deal with colleagues who are fixed mindset, focused on punitive methods or who believe that alternatives to suspensions equate to being soft on discipline?
From the book โMaslow Before Bloom: Basic Human Needs Before Academicsโ
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Setting appropriately challenging goals has an effect size of 0.59, as of the latest research. One approach is the "Goldlilocks's principle" that in helping students thrive, goals should be neither too easy, too hard, or too boring.
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Another #schoolshooting, this time at Covenant School, a private Christian school in Green Hills near Nashville, Tennessee.
Why do Republicans want to protect people with AR-15s but not our children? Enough of Republican thoughts and prayers.
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When you have a difficult, disrespectful, and defiant student, my biggest tip for youโฆ is to have lots of conversations with them when they are not in trouble. These conversations are where you build rapportโฆ and that rapport makes future confrontations less likely.