In some cultures disrespecting someone’s mother gets brushed off as “banter”. In others it gets you seriously hurt. Not every culture was raised with the same level of honor.
Her theory is if men wanted to they would and if they don’t they just use you as an ego boost and keep it moving, I’m finding it hard to disagree with her
The only way I see this happening is if a woman works closely long hours with a non-Muslim man or vice versa but you still are in charge of your own boundaries. This doesn’t make it ok for you to start seeing them outside of work or letting your head begin romanticising them
People saying it’s not a choice, you don’t develop such deep feelings from just seeing someone. You have to get to know them which is very much a choice
You think emotional unavailability makes you ‘high value.’
Your wife thinks it makes you a roommate she happens to have kids with.
Guess which perspective determines whether your marriage survives?
I reckon the stoic personality trend is responsible for a lot of bs to justify how men deep down don’t rate who they marry because they equate loving a woman with weakness
Our communities are inheriting a generation of men that confuses emotional constipation with spiritual discipline, and we wonder why our marriages are failing.
And also do not act or think you are the “IT” guy - frankly if you were HIM you’d be married. Some of you guys need a reality check and this is some sincere advice if you want a healthy marriage and not just a transactional relationship. Genuinely.
Those of you who truly want to get married, when you speak to potentials, remember you’re speaking to a human, and learn to listen and also ask questions which are broader than can you cook for fucks sake
After speaking to my sisters who are looking to marry, looking at potential men with them, and their feedback after meeting them - honestly, when they say the bar is in the floor it’s an understatement. Some of you men have 0 emotional intelligence and are incredibly self indulge