It genuinely bothers me that most people (especially in the south and especially if you’re a woman) don’t consider you a respectable adult until you have a ring on your finger 🥴
You can’t coach them all the same. The anxious kid that wants to please needs pressure removed. The unmotivated kid needs tough-love & to be confronted, challenged. When your only tool is a hammer, every problem looks like a nail. Don’t do surgery on a splinter with a chainsaw.