So I learned recently why it's so hard for us to attain spirituality. It's cause Purusha(spirit) got so fascinated with Prakriti(matter), the observer got obsessed with the observant. And the same applies to us, we are too much obsessed about the material things which blocks our
live without matter and understand it's higher self, who he actually is. But that doesn't mean that you leave every materialistic goals to take sanyas and become a sadhu or something. But you can try to understand your real self while achieving your materialistic responsibilities