Sea~jay

Chelsea supporting Man united||Podcaster||Writer||Voiceover artist||Radio broadcaster||Friend✨

[Sea~jay @Chelcee_ej]

To Whoever Needs This,

You deserve to know what it feels like to be loved wholeheartedly, completely, and without reservations.

And when that kind of love finds you, I pray you have the courage to embrace it fully and not push it away.

[Primzy @lovyPrimzy1]

My husband gave his younger sister ₦5 million to start a business.

When I asked him for ₦500k to expand mine, he told me to take a loan.

I didn't complain.
Six months later, his sister's business failed.

Mine grew with the loan.

Last week, he asked me to employ his sister.

I said no.

Now everyone in the family says I'm wicked.

The house has not known peace since that day. Was I wrong?

Should a wife help after being denied help by the same person asking?

[𐌁𐌉Ᏽ 𐌕𐌉𐌌𐌉 @OrevaZSN]

This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.

[Sharon Rotimi @TheSharonRotimi]

And then, there's the rest of us: obviously not a baddie, not really a cutie patootie, something of a Taiga.

[Bubbles🫧 @sinmi_loluwa]

That’s why you should upload them on https://t.co/JIADKOOrhe
So the whole world can see your work

[Deisine @TDeisine]

Ask him why he does not have a group chat or a therapist. Women are not born with these things, they put in effort to create all these for themselves.

[👑K I N G👑 @kingsuleiman27]

This is exactly why some men feel threatened when they meet intelligent, ambitious and success driven women.

They are afraid that once a woman starts earning her own money and contributing financially to the family, she will begin to behave the same way they do.

Men believe that because they are the ones providing for the family, they can do whatever dumb shit they want and get away with it and that includes cheating.

What they fail to understand is that being responsible, disciplined, and accountable is even a huge part of their responsibility.

That’s why you hear some of them say things like

“If you’re relocating abroad, don’t take your wife with you”

They are afraid she will start investing in herself, growing, working, earning her own income, becoming independent, and no longer tolerating certain behaviors.

Haven’t you seen men on this app advising other men to keep their wives constantly occupied with pregnancies, toddlers, and endless responsibilities so they won’t have time to invest in themselves, build careers, or start businesses of their own?

Some even say, open a business for your wife but make sure the business doesn’t grow, make it look like you’re supporting her business.

By the time you know it, 20 years is gone… while he’s out on the street chasing small girls, leaving you looking like a 80 year old granny handling all the chores

[Ifediche @esther_stan]

For the last time, men you really have to chose between a traditional women or a career woman. You can’t have both!

[Sea~jay @Chelcee_ej]

@KerenKBitto God help Nigerian women to see through such men

[Bitto Keren K Esq. @KerenKBitto]

My father is not Otedola

But my mother never lifted a finger to work during any of her pregnancies.

She is still a size 8 at 67+ because daddy keeps funding her healthy feeding

I grew up eating veggies like Broccoli, kale, cauliflower, zucchini, radishes etc because my father could afford paying for them to be brought fresh from Jos for his wife monthly.

My mom grows berries, custard apples and other exotic fruits at home because her husband could afford a house with enough land for her horticultural garden and is building her a bigger house with even more land for gardening

If I say I want a man with my father’s money A LOT of you in this generation won’t be able to afford 1% of the comfort he gave and still gives my mom.

I eat salads, drink green teas constantly and I know how expensive they are. The average Nigerian man cannot daily pay 12k for breakfast and dinner salad (I am doing this for myself as a single woman because I grew up eating this way).

Otedola is far, middle income fathers exist and a lot of you small boys still can’t afford the things our middle class fathers can afford but keep talking.

[Brooda John @Nigeriangod_]

A submissive woman can't build a home with an unsubmissive man! An accountable woman can't build a home with an unaccountable man! A faithful woman can't build a home with a community penis!

A prayerful woman can't build a home with a prayer-less man!

When will u men get this?

[Ayodamola. @iam_ayodamola10]

Yesterday in church, a woman who’s almost 80 came out to testify. She said that last week, someone gifted her ₦20k. That was the first time in her entire life she ever had ₦20k in her account that wasn’t for medication or food.

The pastor asked if she was serious, and she said yes.

The pastor then gifted her ₦150k. Her account number was read out, and before the end of the service, her account already had more than ₦500k.

[TalkSense with BBO🇬🇧🇳🇬 @BolajiBorah]

Naso my friends father left them when the last born and the only son was 2years old. Their mother suffered without any family help to feed, house, cloth and raise them till the 1st daughter graduated and she automatically took the mantle of parenting the 3 younger ones.
To cut long story short, 1st born trained 2nd girl, bith of them joined to train the 3rd and the 3 sisters joined to train the last born the boy.
The 3 sisters moved abroad, built 3 bedroom flat for their mother and set up business for her in the estate.
The boy was going for NYSC when papalolo appeared 22years later with his family begging to return to "his" family🤣
You know our mothers and their hunger for husband either Odogwu abi Odiegwu right? She said she had forgiven him.
Oga packed inside, mama called her children for family settlements and reunion. The boy had gisted his sister about the man he found strange. Remember he was just 2years old when he left them.
My friend and her sisters came back with immediate alacrity.
His useless family started gaslighting, "your father is your father, your mother loves your father and they have reconciled, forgive and forget"
My friend, the second born ( second born are usually not nice people) the most hot blooded among them stood up and asked their mother, "you have forgiven your husband right, and you still love him?" She said yes. Ok, go inside there, pack all your things out of our house and go live with your husband because this man cannot live inside this house that we built. They thought it was a joke, she stood up, and other siblings followed her, they started packing their mother's stuff.
One time mama head correct o. She said mba now, this is my house and I am not going anywhere. His useless family said he didn't have a house, and he was sick he needed a home and a help. The children refused.
That's how his family who couldn't help them, started shouting and gaslighting, you will need your father o. Abi you will not marry? You will need your father's blessing. Even you boy they will use it to abuse you.
The 1st born busted into laughter, we graduted without his blessing, we married without his blessing and we have kids without his blessing, he should carry his blessings back to the street where he belongs.
Oong story short, his family helped him pack and went with him.
Then their mum started shouting Jehovah o.... how did I allow him back? She must have been hypnotised or something but she came back to her senses. She was warned never to entertain him else she will never see them again since they already arranged their brother's Master in the UK.

[Mimi 👑 @Cheriemike2]

A woman’s place is in the kitchen, no matter how much she earns.

This is what a senior colleague told me during lunch today.

We were discussing about a brilliant female manager in our firm who just got promoted. Instead of celebrating her, this man sneered and said:"Her husband is trying. If it were me, she would reject that promotion. A woman who travels every month cannot keep a proper home. The kids will suffer."

I asked him, "But sir, together with husband’s salary their lives will change."

He laughed and shook his head. "You young people don't get it. Money does not respect a man. Once a woman starts earning double her husband's income, submission flies out the window."

I looked around the cafeteria, and to my surprise, some of the older women were nodding in agreement (like agama lizard).

It made me realize how deeply we have normalized shrinking women so that men can feel secure.

We have women doing well in their various places like Ngozi Iweala and any others yet we have never heard their husbands complaint, how did we even get here.

[YabaLeftOnline @yabaleftonline]

“If your staff salary can’t cover needs, savings, and to give others, it’s slǎvery, not 9–5”

[Lola Okunrin @lollypeezle]

If you remove my wife from my life this past 72 hours, I fit kpeme.

We have been moving houses and everywhere is so scattered like mad but once I ask “where is my blue boxers with duduke painting”, she will go straight to the point. “Uhmmmn, it should be in the yellow bag beside the bed”. What of my green comb with black tattoo? “It is inside the black box on the shelf”.

Women actually own the home. I feel like an alien. With how scattered and overwhelming my life is, she still has every detail in her head. Obirin 🙌

[Precious Bernard(Benin Chef👩🏽‍🍳) @ptreatshaven]

Two years ago, I was in a talking stage with a guy.
He sent me his Netflix and prime login, and he said that I should always ask him when I needed something.
The first time we had an argument, he removed me from his Netflix and prime accounts immediately.😂
That was the day I took my financial life more seriously and decided that I will never solely rely on a man for survival.
I blocked him immediately because being with that kind of person would mean torture for me.

[𐙚 @ijanedoll]

My favorite genre of internet video is an abuser finding out that the rest of the world isn't scared of him.

[Cjay🌎 @AnyanwuMalachy]

One Landlord in my former neighborhood included his married daughters to get a share of his inheritance, but his sons are not having it.

They've even dragged their father to the community oracle to answer for himself as he refused to renege on his decision.

They are claiming that thier sisters will benefit from thier own husband's inheritance since they are married, and as such, it is cheating to them the men.

Aren't women meant to get a share from their fathers property or is it a taboo in some traditions?

[Zee @ZainabBell657]

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[💔 Boy alone @Boyalonefy]

The person inside that panda>>>>>🥹