@JAHattaway We are definitely not safe. Thinking like that will get us left out next realignment. We should expect more out of our program. We are in a bad state and it needs to be addressed.
In meaningful psychotherapy, we help patients move from the general to the specific, from the abstract to the personal. We encounter resistance along the way, which itself becomes the focus of our attention and curiosity.
👉Tell me what you mean
👉Can you give me an example
👉Say more
👉I notice you didn’t mention
👉Something makes it hard to talk about this
👉Perhaps there’s a reason you left that out
👉What more comes to mind
👉I notice you looked sad when you said
👉Perhaps it’s easier to focus on this than that
👉Can you put words to those tears
👉I notice we quickly got away from the topic of
👉Help me connect the dots
These comments are made in a spirit of non-judgmental curiosity, intended to invite the patient to *be curious* with us, without blame or shame.
They help create space for the patient to notice, attend to, and begin to put words to areas of experience that were previously unknown or unacknowledged.
This approach to psychotherapy takes account of unconscious mental life: we do not fully know our own hearts and minds, there are multiple layers of experience, and emotional life is complex and often contradictory.
This is how we become more self-aware and more whole.
The therapeutic stance of *finding out together* is very different from providing tips, tools, worksheets, advice, or solutions.
It is also very different from automatically affirming or validating whatever is on the surface, before we could possibly understand what we’re validating.
The starting point of in-depth psychotherapy is recognizing there is more than meets the eye, and working to develop a relationship in which patient and therapist can discover it together.
Any group of hostile invaders of the US would fail. Americans are protective and armed to the teeth.
But invaders that enter singing, drinking us out of beer and putting traffic cones on our statues we will embrace!! 🤣🤣
#worldcup#tartanarmy
Ran my first @veefriends WhatNot show on Friday. A few tears, lots of laughs, it was a good time!
VF is so much bigger than collectibles. For me it’s about knowing people and showing up for each other.
Huge shoutout to @Hudaman01 & @YodasRightNut for helping me get started!