We take life so granted that we keep things for later. We never know, today might be that last call, last meet, last long walk, last smile, last hug, last miss, last of everything, and last expression of love, to a friend, to a family.
Its never about changing someone forcefully or making them understand, its about letting them feel the love and grow towards light.
Now, its upto us to take things for granted or be grateful for someone's presence.
Life taught many things, hoping for a re-exam to prove the worth
We do mistakes, we do things and often say unsaid things when we feel home in someone. But the part we miss is self awareness, we forget that we might have gained maturity in individual stuffs but may be we need to grow when it comes to mutuality.
When we learn it, in a hard way, bcz we value the bond more than self.
We choose to accept more than fight back. We pray for things to get alright again, bcz after all its never about the mistakes, Its about the repeated pattern, its never about the promises, its about breaking..
But try to be as patient as possible with your partner. Its Difficult, draining, breaking down but still its a phase and it shall pass.
#selfreflection
One of those difficult situations, when you want things to get right soon but your partner needs some space. Your caring may sometimes give irritation and feel burdened to your partner. Being patient is the only way out. But, if you get a bit impatient that's ok, you are human.
And suddenly, at the age of 27, on one tenseful march evening, I realised, you can be emotionally intellectual, sensible, caring and everything a man should be and yet, you be nothing in someone's eyes bcz you are not earning (successful, as they say).
Reality check of society.
From a man to some High valued girls: "Be in a relationship where you fear losing him, not because he will actually cheat or go away but bcz it will make you stay there with commitment, promises and the boundaries intact. Choose a good man, stay obsessed until you marry."
Because, I have seen girls getting lost in this journey from relationship to marriage. Just, Hold on. Everything will make sense later. Just stay true to your standards.
Huge respect for them who never crossed boundaries in the name of entertainment.
You cant preach same habit before and after a relationship. Then, you had no one whose emotion is driven by your actions, now you have that.
People change their schedule, habits and momentum for jobs, tasks, friends but can't update themselves for the person they love.
Accepting someone always is Accepting their flaws, the flaws that they grew up with, the core nature, like: patience level, childish nature, anger, emotions, trauma etc.
Accepting was never about Accepting someone's odd habits like, mistake patterns, mindsets, boundaries etc.
Loving someone is accepting who they are, not how they behave. There has to be healthy boundaries in every relationship that is respected by both and each of us has to be enough responsible and accountable towards that boundary.