His continued focus on respectful children actually creates anxious adults with low self-worth who are more prone to coping by using substances.
It creates adults who hide their pain and don't ask for help.
Their thoughts are not about how they can contribute emotionally, connect with their families and help to make everyone feel safe and resilient.
Their thoughts are: my home is the one place that should not have to put in effort.
Because they lack communication skills, they're not able to directly express how they feel or what they need.
They develop an authoritative personality type. This enables them to avoid healthy communication.
Instead they make harsh demands.
Los animales no saben que aman.
No hacen teoría del amor.
No prometen.
/ Aman en acto /
Se acercan.
Esperan.
Vuelven.
Se quedan.
En la puerta.
En el cuerpo donde se acurrucan.
En la lealtad sin explicación.
El amor no pasa por el saber.
/ Acontece /
Radical acceptance sounds like: “I wanted this. I really did. I saw the best in them. I stayed longer than I should’ve. I prayed, I tried, I over-explained, I softened every edge of myself so I wouldn’t scare them off. And still… they didn’t choose to meet me there.”
Normalize telling boys the stories of what women in the family went through. Boys seem to hear
"grandma makes the best turkey"
while daughters hear
"grandma was married at 14."
Tell the boys the cost of their favorite meals, too.
🟥⬛️ESCUELA PARA EL ANARCOSINDICALISMO
✍️Jornada de Formación sobre nóminas
📆Sábado 24 enero
⏰mañana y tarde
📍CNT Vitoria
✊En defensa de nuestros derechos laborales, que sirva para empoderar a lxs trabajadorxs frente a la patronal y sus burocracias