Possessions and status cannot perpetually entertain nor perpetually satisfy a woman, she needs your true love and devotion at some point or she will self-destruct the relationship. We've all been there at least once.
Frankly, I think any man worth his own weight in salt is playing the wrong game by looking at self-growth as a mechanism to meet a wife, or building an obelisk of success to attract beautiful women. That is not your purpose in life and you know it.
If any single man be 19-30 and reading this, lock in real-quick. You absolutely without a doubt *-NEED-* to find and join a sophisticated social improvement organization. If you don't you are throwing your life and future potential away. While single, you have unlimited agency. This allows you to drop all of the dead-weight and become obsessed with creating your destiny.
There are countless places any male who calls himself a man can show up on a "2nd Tuesday" or "3rd Thursday" or "1st Wednesday", be fed a free meal, spoken to with respect and furnished with materials that pertain to the goals of the organization.
You will likely be called upon to speak about yourself for between 15 seconds and 1 minute, depending on the routine of that group. This is just compensation for walking into their gathering and dining with them.
-{You Will Likely Be The Youngest Person There.}-
You may not notice this as first, but you will realize that everyone who exceeds you in age sees the value of your youth before them. Take the utmost advantage of this. It will allow you to absorb lifetimes of lessons and perceptions that you otherwise would have been forever blind to.
If you are already gainfully employed but want to command a higher form of pursuit, you can ask for the calendar of the organization. You will very likely find events that are put on by them and you will be cordially invited if you mention that you have interest in the activity.
The most broad groups are those like:
Rotary Club: Mostly 40+ parents and local business owners. They put on big events like local car shows, boat races, cookouts, rodeos, the sky is the limit. They use profits to do immensely impactful charity work like giving the /most/ needy kids from the local schools a chance to spend $250 at target with a trusted guardian (police supervision) when they have often never had anything new of their own. The dues are moderate but giving sincerity to the cause will easily find you sponsors if the cost of attendance to the luncheon is what stops you from volunteering to help run the pancake breakfast.
Rotaract: Like Rotary, but for young adults who want to take charge of their own platform, engage with local libraries, animal shelters, elderly living care homes, parks, clean ups and a variety of benefit-others-not-myself projects. These clubs are more sparse because many of the people of these age groups are under duress from school or work, and are financially struggling. So anyone who does show up has other support or is able to use the club as a means to do something near and dear to their heart. The monetary dues are low but the time dedication is what makes this hard for College students or full time workers to commit to when also building a life for themselves.
Chamber of Commerce: Band for Band one of the most trustworthy business groups you can join, must pay significant dues after a few visits, but will put you in the local publics eye if you seek to build your own business. Get ready to have reporters ask you questions the day you open up shop, find yourself featured in a local magazine for donating a playground. Perhaps they really loved your 3-page-story about the 5-best-places in area to eat with your family, so they get it published in 3 places because the owners want the clientele boost.
Beyond that you have lots of other niche groups that usually exist to serve a specific purpose. These are often hard to find unless you are already aligned with that purpose. These include small clubs that have a 501(c) and collect donations to give out jackets or clothes to the homeless in the winter. Some seek to preserve historical artifacts, like the oldest house in the town, or historical sites. You can find their information by going online and by taking yourself to the places you'd like to enact change. Fate might guide you but you should definitely ask people in your area what they are involved in.
There are also groups like AF-AM Freemasonry. Often misunderstood by the public or deemed controversial due to something someone read one time or heard from someone. Despite this, it is the oldest publicly facing organization of it's kind and is responsible for men like George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, Sam Houston, William Travis, Jesse Jackson, Mark Twain, James Garfield, Wolfgang Mozart, Buzz Aldrin and Arnold Palmer to name a few. The commitment level to this kind of organization is usually lifetime and your acceptance will be dependent on many factors. The only thing required of you is to seek out your local lodge and go knock on the door, don't be afraid to leave your info written down with request when they will next hold an open meeting or gather for refreshment. Sometimes they have a public facebook page or instagram with times posted, or you can DM the account admin. X might be a little too new for broad use but it's worth checking.
-Now that you know what's out there we can talk about why you would even consider any of this when you could just entertain yourself for 6 hours a day.
If you engage upon the groups with desire to take and eat more than your fair share, you will be booted out or shunned to the point you won't return.
You must be humble and honest. The more you give your love and dedication to a group like this, the more it will eventually give back to you. The return on investment isn't meant to be calculated because that thought process will stop you from being where you need to be when you need to be there. Before you know it, everyone has known you a few years and they have seen you grow tremendously. They care about you, they ask what kind of support you need in life to make the next big jump, they might even introduce you to their daughter because she'd be lucky to marry a man like you.
I typed this from the bottom of my heart and will diligently and elaborately respond to any question that has sincere and earnest intent to benefit from the interaction. I will not be responding to any form of negativity on this post, if you have harsh things to say feel free to bombard my replies tab. I will respond accordingly elsewhere.
@redaction My sanity rests upon applying creativity to every aspect of my life. I own very few generic things because I make everything my own.
I even manage to turn data cabling and technology into an art form by doing beautiful cable management.
Most genuinely talented people i have ever known share the same pathetic affliction, this whingeing reluctance to use what they have dressed up as decency. they tuck their abilities away in some grubby mental corner and convince themselves this is some kind of noble self restraint, when in reality it is plain gutless flinching. ive watched brilliant people rot for years because they were too cowardly to admit they were brilliant, and too comfortable in some small, squalid version of themselves they assembled out of other peoples opinions. your talent is not yours to bury. you didn't earn it and you don't get to decide it should be still. either it gets used or it eats you from the inside. there is no happy middle ground where a talented person sits on what they have and lives to any fucking satisfaction, ive never met one who pulled it off
Hunger is at least honest about its cruelty, it gnaws the peasant's belly with such wretched transparent malice that even the dullest poor wretch can identify his tormentor, but abundance, that plump gilded sow, waddles into the rich man's estate wearing the perfume of everything he ever coveted and proceeds to smother him in his own excess
@BonesawMD Been there done that, you end up married to someone who falls in love with your shadow.
It’s like life, you get what you want when you settle on and accept the ride.
I love that I’ve been saying this for years and discourse is catching up. I won’t be misunderstood on the subject anymore. (Hopefully).
Some fun facts: Glass is made of sand and silica, (and some other exotic compounds to prevent cracking on modern devices).
When Jesus said “let him without sin be the first to throw stones”, he was trolling them while simultaneously writing in the sand.
If you’re surrounded by only sand for long enough, you hallucinate an oasis.
In the flip side, when you live through the advent of AI with the perspective that it’s a magic box in your pocket as described prices by mystics in the 1700s, life stops being so serious. Like bro it’s 2026, everyone has a customized crystal ball in their pocket and people are black pilling??? Not everyone can be a max lvl sorcerer who knows who studied the old texts and min maxed their intelligence and mana pool in a world where the warrior class was OP. A few updates happen and all those warriors are suddenly making druids and warlocks, rocking lvl 4 tattered crypt robes meanwhile real wizards have enchanted insignia rings, their own Library of lore, and were the ones who wrote the directions for the starter items all the class swappers got.
Example: tom kruise has no idea who I am and what I’m capable of, but I’ve been influenced by his posting for months. That establishes him as having used the black mirror outwardly. Food for thought.
Seeded thought, you read something that has a time delay, and the advertisment algorithms identify your rhythmic interaction patterns. If only it were so tame as “the phone read my mind”.
Not all boomers bro. I met a gentleman through community service projects in like 2021. He funded tens thousands of dollars of scholarships, outright paid for trade school for many kids who lost their parents to tragedy, lived well beneath his means and was an underdog from the start, born in rural Appalachia, joined the navy and eventually become an industrial electrician for n the gulf coast. At the end of last year he reached out and asked if I wanted to buy his house on a sweetheart deal because he was downsizing to a senior condo community. He knew I had gotten married, had a baby and was adamant about my first house being in a specific neighborhood that is its own city.
He let me live there rent free for 3 months while my lease ended and I got financing, which was really only possible because I got the house well under fair market value. He even put on a new roof and got all new HVAC installed out of pocket before the transaction. I’m now the youngest home owner in the city at 31.
His reasoning? He built a legacy at his home in an established neighborhood and wanted someone like me to continue it. His kids are grown and live out of state, his grand kids aren’t old enough to be responsible for a home and pool. Insurance and taxes alone are like 20k annual.
He isn’t alone, the boomers who give their money away and contribute to the next generation are the opposite of the ones you speak about. They are quiet, don’t bother with social media and generally go to the same 10 places every week. They favor the youth who demonstrate consistently that they want to see the world become a better place.
I can name 10 who I personally know. The unfortunate aspect is that Gen Z almost exclusively interacts with booms via the internet. Boomers who spend their time on social media are generally more disgruntled and themselves don’t have disposable income or had to sell their home because taxes were too high. I’d wager a large portion of the “boomerslop” arguments you refer to, are from those who didn’t “ride the Proverbial coattails of the best economy ever”, and are suffering in the same economy we are. They just read it as “they’re mad I have a 30 year head start but I’m 50 years older! I can’t even get hired at Home Depot!”.
Before I reply (I read every word you wrote btw):
Are you a deist? You said you’re not Christian, but didn’t provide your position before blaming the faith for the fall of Europe (in so many words).
Are you steadfast about these opinions in your daily life or is this intellectual masturbattion for you?
I’ve come to realize that saying “I couldn’t afford it without XYZ” when people compliment your possessions is the most relatable response in almost every case.
It dissolves the wall between both parties in a way that allows for mutual appreciation of one another. One party is praised for their taste or ability to purchase something nice, and the other party isn’t made to feel less than, and is given a piece of the puzzle in reaching that goal themselves.
Seeded thought, you read something that has a time delay, and the advertisment algorithms identify your rhythmic interaction patterns. If only it were so tame as “the phone read my mind”.
@plasmarob Dude that is so true. If I’m in house clothes getting my daughter ready I have to do the clothes wiggle battle. If I’m dressed and acting ready to leave she basically dresses herself from the clothes I set out.
AI lowers the marginal cost of creative skill to zero. This has the downside of giving billions of people with no creative taste the ability to create whatever they want (AI slop) but the upside that those who have taste but lack skill the ability to produce great art, and those who have taste and skill the ability to produce great art 10X faster than before.