The worst thing you can do in a relationship is ask the person you love to pay for their sins against you. To "prove" their love. To "win back your trust." We are all broken, and ugly, and stupid, and if we were required to pay for all of our crimes against one another, we would be in eternal debt. Either you can forgive them, or you don't. But never make it a debt that requires them to be subservient to you. You think you might win something in having that sense of power, but you don't. Every day that you don't just love them with the full expression of your devotion, feeling the freedom that comes with total submersion into your pact to each other, you lose and you lose and you lose.