A 35 year old single woman is dating a 39 year old single man.
She first paid him a visit because they live in different states.
She spent about a week with him and then traveled back to her location. At the beginning of last month, she told me that the man would be visiting her.
The man booked his round-trip flight ticket, so she went to pick him up from the airport.
She has been skeptical about the relationship, so I told her to observe things when he arrives.
Today, she's in my DM saying that the man just left. I was surprised because it has been a month since we last chatted. So I asked her where the man had stayed during that period. She said the man stayed with her.
For a full month?
But she said it was the man that was responsible for the feeding throughout.
Even though he paid for his tickets and the feeding, I still do not feel comfortable with the man living with her for one month and sleeping with her on her bed.
It makes the woman look desperate, cheap and irresponsible in his sight, but she doesn't know. He doesn't work in her state, but he could spend a whole month with her?
When she told me about his coming, in my mind, I thought it would be a few days or a week at most.
And then the man would stay in a hotel, even if it was a cheap hotel.
Man just came, fuck for one full month and left.
Well, I have told her that she cannot find a husband that way. And even if the man marries her, she would be shocked as to what she might experience.
The man doesn't have a stable job and doesn't have good financial backing. The woman has a good job, has a business, lives a very good place in Abuja and drives her own car.
The man doesn't have a car and has never bought one.
I have told her that the relationship may not work. I also told her that communication might drop now that he has left.
True to my words, the man arrived in his state and hasn't called her. She called him, and he didn't pick up.
Till now, no show.
End.
Was King Solomon’s marriage to 300 wives a political tool or an act of love?
Walk with me.
It was recorded that When David’s reign ended, Solomon inherited a kingdom shaped by war, sacrifice, and covenant. Part of the reason God did not want him to build his temple.
When God appeared to Solomon in a dream and asked a question that echoes through eternity:
“Ask what I shall give thee”(1 Kings 3:5),
Solomon did not ask for long life or victory over enemies. He asked for wisdom.
It was recorded that both King David and King Solomon reign over Israel for 40 years.
The key question is this: what did Solomon did differently that brought peace to Israel?
The answer can be found in the book of (1 kings 3:1 )
“And Solomon made affinity with Pharaoh king of Egypt, and took Pharaoh’s daughter, and brought her into the city of David”.
This verse introduces a governing strategy, alliance through marriage. In the ancient time, royal marriages were not romantic gestures; they were political instruments used to secure borders, prevent wars, and strengthen trade relationships.
Egypt was not the only nation Solomon allied with. Scripture later tells us:
“But king Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zidonians, and Hittites” (1 Kings 11:1).
These nations are significant. Every one of them had previously gone to war with King David (2 Samuel 8–12). What David subdued by the sword, Solomon neutralized by diplomacy. Former enemies became family. Battlefields were replaced with banquet tables.
This strategy produced peace:
“And he had peace on all sides round about him” (1 Kings 4:24). Trade flourished, borders stabilized, and Israel prospered. Solomon’s marriages functioned as diplomatic treaties, ensuring that neighboring nations had a vested interest in peace rather than conflict.
Can we come to a conclusion that Solomon’s multiple marriages were not random; they were a calculated diplomatic tool to secure borders, prevent wars, strengthen trade, and maintain peace.
After all, who willingly goes to war with his in-laws?