Crystle Lampitt LSCSW

📺 Journalist turned Licensed Therapist 🛋 | Trauma Specialist 🧠 | TEDx Speaker 🎤 | Indo-American in #KC 🇲🇨 🇺🇸

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Defensive detachment in childhood is a coping strategy where preemptively distancing from caregivers protects against emotional pain. In adulthood,this can show up as difficulty trusting,fear of intimacy,and a tendency to isolate,keeping us disconnected from others and ourselves.

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Self-sabotage is often an adaptive survival strategy developed in response to early trauma or unmet developmental needs. When we face overwhelming experiences in childhood,the nervous system may adopt certain behaviors or thought patterns as a way to protect us from further pain.

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Individuals with C-PTSD may experience physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach aches, and chest pains. They may also experience health problems such as fibromyalgia, IBS, acid reflux, migraines, chronic fatigue syndrome and autoimmune illnesses.

Source: Mayo Clinic

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While some choose no-contact, others may find value in these relationships if expectations are managed and boundaries respected.

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Mourning what we didn’t receive in childhood can open space to accept what’s available now in family dynamics. Grieving helps us acknowledge pain instead of bypassing it. We can then decide on healthy boundaries if we re-engage. 1/2

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@HomeworkJones Thank you! It has been the best decision!

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The body’s freeze response isn’t “laziness”—it’s the nervous system saying “I’m overwhelmed and need to conserve resources” in response to perceived threat (whether we’re aware of the trigger or not). Animals don’t judge themselves for this,but our brains like to create stories…

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There is no guarantee that your friends/loved ones will grow at the same pace or in the same direction as you. Since we can’t force anyone to shift,maybe we can normalize acknowledging differences,taking a step back,or letting these relationships go if they no longer make sense.

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“Just think positive” completely disregards the function of the brain: to protect us & keep us alive. You’re not a “negative person” for having fearful/catastrophizing thought patterns. You have a brain that has learned to anticipate threats according to your unique environment.

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If you don’t know what you want, first trying focusing on what feels good in your body.What basic NEEDS are there?Which people,places + practices feel supportive?Which ones don’t? Listen to body cues as guidance.When your brain feels safe, then you’ll have better access to WANTS.

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@alignedwithjoy Thank you for tuning in!! Yes great point!! It’s not uncommon for adoptees to have trauma/attachment issues (especially if they’ve been in foster care). It’s a complex issue, and bc our nervous systems and environments are so unique, adoptees may respond differently to adoption.

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Many of our problematic patterns as adults are behaviors we learned we had to perform in order to survive and receive love as children. When safety and connection are not created, and love is not freely given, we learn to work for it rather than believing we already deserve it.

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Whenever you find yourself thinking, “I wish they could just change THIS [thing other person doesn’t want to/isn’t aware of needing to change],” consider how hard (or impossible) it has been for you to change a long-standing habit/pattern/trait that you actually WANTED to change.

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When you try to build a relationship on “potential,” or the hope that the other person could change, you’re not loving them where they’re at. Sometimes the best way to love someone is to give them space to be just as they are, and decide whether that includes you or not.

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@andre_awden2332 Thank you!!

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Sometimes it’s hard to tolerate a healthy relationship after toxic/abusive ones. When we’ve adapted to the emotional rollercoaster, a smooth coast may feel “boring” or suspicious.

We might actually need to help rewire our brains to feel safe enough to receive stability + peace.

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@957TheVibe Was not able to easily find contact information, but your station is playing multiple tracks at simultaneously right now. Thought maybe it was a remix at first— overlaying multiple audio over the song, but I don’t think it is lol

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Sometimes we abandon ourselves in order to “keep things together,” convincing ourselves this is the best way to show up for those who count on us. More often,this self-betrayal is a recipe for deadening ourselves,numbing out,& eventually teaching those watching us to do the same.

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Healing can be a lonely journey as we learn that we don’t have to tolerate poor treatment, and start pruning offenders out of our lives. It’s easy to get stuck in the “there’s nobody healthy out there for me” phase…but know that “pruning” is meant to bring in healthy growth.

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Often, the rhetoric that we must forgive those who have harmed us can also teach us to bypass our genuine experiences and set us up for more pain. True trauma healing starts with validating our authentic experience, and leaves space for CHOICE around how we want to move forward.