Subs you can treat people like service providers when you pay for their time or you can do the emotional labor to earn their friendship. However, if your using the idea of friends to get a service for free. You're just being manipulative.
The thing about male submission, is that you need to unlearn the patriarchy before you participate, or you're just going to perpetuate it on your domme.
"I've been scammed before" is a pair of big bright red flags being waved in your fresh face. 999999 times out of 1000000 when a man is claiming that he got "scammed" by a sex worker, he is fishing for sympathy to lower your defenses so that he can do the same shit to you that he did to the last girl and the two dozen that came before her. What he really means is that he either was grotesquely stupid enough not to do his due diligence to ensure that he was actually speaking with a verified adult content creator or that he had his access to her revoked for disrespecting her time, her professional and personal boundaries, or because he had ludicrous expectations of entitlement to unlimited access and became belligerent and got himself blocked before achieving sexual gratification at her expense. Act accordingly.
I wonder if the ridiculous men who ask Me if I'd still be dominating subs if they weren't paying Me to do so realize that My lifestyle dynamics would still revolve around My life being lavish from their labors. If I'm not appreciated thoroughly & often, I don't want that dynamic.