things i wanna experience in love:
• a birthday where i don’t plan nothing… i just get cute & show up
• “be ready at 7” & i’m not asking questions… just going with it
• random “i seen this & thought about you” gifts for no reason
• my favorite snacks already at his place… like you really listen fr
• flowers… not just on holidays, just because
• a handwritten note or letter i can keep forever
• him remembering something small i said weeks ago & turning it into something sweet
not doing the most… just intentional, genuine love 💕✨
i’m instantly turned off by a man that has very negative opinions about women even if it doesn’t apply to me. something very nasty and misogynistic about that spirit that never sat well with me.
I don’t like being lusted after or sexualized. I dont like inconsistency, I dont like empty promises. I don’t like people making me feel like an idiot, I don’t like getting my hopes up to be let down. I don’t like having to pretend to care less, I don’t like feeling like im a bother or a chore to talk to, I don’t like being led on. I don’t like receiving the bare minimum. I don’t like overthinking.
I love being the kind of woman you don’t come across twice. Not because of how I look, but because of how I love, how I think, and how I move. In a world full of temporary energy, I am intentional. Solid. Rare.
My coworker used to take the long way home every night. Two extra bus stops, more walking, more money, more time. One day I asked her why she didn’t just take the shortcut alley behind our building.
She laughed and said, “Oh, because a guy followed me there once and told me he could ‘do whatever he wanted’ and no one would hear me scream.”
So now, every night, she calls a male friend and pretends she’s on the phone with her “boyfriend.” Sometimes she even laughs loudly and says things like, “Yeah, I’ll see you in five minutes, babe,” even when she’s completely alone.
Not because she wants attention.
Not because she’s dramatic.
Because sounding “taken” and “protected” is safer than sounding like a woman by herself.
Men cannot even begin to understand the calculations women make every day just to get home alive.
As a single woman who respects herself, I don’t have to deal with ANYTHINGGGGG I don’t want to deal with. It’s really that simple. Men are very disposable and replaceable over here.
1. They talk to us condescendingly, as if we’re children or ignorant.
2. They expect us to sacrifice work–life balance because they do.
3. The wages simply aren’t livable
4. The work environment is toxic, and they resent us for calling it out.