Dating and Mating

Dating & mating researcher with 500+ book archive | Author of Costly Signals: The Evolution of Dating Advice – how experts & TikTok coaches shape attraction.

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

1973 dating manual that predicted Tinder: a management professor treated dating like a business problem—prospecting leads, calculating odds, and mastering costly signals. Turns out the 'free love' era had a secret strategist. Wildly ahead of its time.
@ajdubrin
https://t.co/d5MGyJVlI1

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

@Ravarora1 It was overseas, with a large expat community so I’d imagine loads of people already matching on the apps. Speed dating, like apps though, does take away the serendipity and real life narrative we like to construct around romance.

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Swipe fatigue is real. Dating apps are dying, and evolutionary psychology helps to explain why.

Costly signals > cheap swipes.

My recent article on the death of the dating app:
https://t.co/0hq9H64Toh #Dating #Quillette

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Why a 1920 dating guide + zoo animals + Gary John Bishop’s (aka @kmoneyloverboy) excellent book on modern dating all say very similar things about relationships (from a costly signalling perspective):

https://t.co/hNW1U9qh3B

[Rollo Tomassi @RationalMale]

Married people today have less sex than married people from the early 1990s. And that's true at any age from 18 to 80 years old. Couples are 5-7 pts less likely to have sex at least monthly today compared to three decades ago.

[Chris Williamson @ChrisWillx]

Women feel much more negatively towards young men than young men feel about them.

72% of men have a positive view of women.

50% of women have a neutral or negative view of men.

21% of women have an actively negative view of men.

Only 7% of men feel the same.

For all the talk about manosphere-inspired misogyny, 3x more women hold a negative view of men than men hold of women. — h/t @NewStatesman

[Steve Stewart-Williams @SteveStuWill]

People vs. Things: Why Men and Women Choose Different Jobs

“The more people-oriented a profession is, the more female-dominated it tends to be, and the more things-oriented it is, the more male-dominated.”

https://t.co/k8j8hM25pg

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

ydney Sweeney, 28, keeps choosing significantly older men—and the internet loses its mind every time.

Why does the media treat age-gap relationships as inherently scandalous when the man is older… but celebrate the reverse as empowering?
https://t.co/cdY1OOZIgo

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Looksmaxxing isn’t really about attracting women. I'd argue that it’s about intrasexual signaling. Men are in an arms race to impress other men with extreme jawlines, muscles, and ‘hardmaxxing’...

https://t.co/EcGhqiZyWl

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Why did the Sensitive New Age Guy (SNAG)—emotional, vulnerable, super-nice—often lose in the mating market?

A sharp look at cultural experiments vs. evolutionary reality in dating.

Worth the read: https://t.co/G2iAg04qP5

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

This infographic traces the journey from "cohabitation" and "biological clock" to "situationship" and "rizz"—and what that shift reveals about who holds the cultural authority to define how we love, date, and mate.

https://t.co/R8igkstL0E
#datingadvice #DatingHistory

[PsyPost.org @PsyPost]

A large analysis published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior has found that partnered women actually report slightly higher sexual satisfaction than men. These findings challenge common assumptions that women experience less enjoyable sex lives. https://t.co/fnqf8Nwnyy

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Playing hard to get has been around since ancient Rome—but is it smart strategy or just outdated games?

Timeless dating wisdom that actually works:

Read the full post 👉 https://t.co/lsBPk5Q0qk…

#datingadvice

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Also confirmed in almost every single Thai soap and drama!

[World of Statistics @stats_feed]

% of married adults who have admitted having an affair:

🇹🇭 Thailand: 51%
🇩🇰 Denmark: 46%
🇮🇹 Italy: 45%
🇩🇪 Germany: 45%
🇫🇷 France: 43%
🇳🇴 Norway: 41%
🇧🇪 Belgium: 40%
🇪🇸 Spain: 39%
🇬🇧 UK: 36%
🇫🇮 Finland: 36%

According to Durex, various dating websites

[Steven Pinker @sapinker]

I agree with this assessment: Trivers explained "the many roots of our suffering" in his analysis of the inherent conflicts of interest in even our most intimate relationships: parent and offspring, sibling and sibling, husband and wife, partner and partner, and the inner and outer domains of the self. All these ideas from a burst of papers (in one case, from a few sentences in a foreword) in the mid-1970s. The implications for the social sciences, and the humanities, are profound.

[Justin Lehmiller @JustinLehmiller]

Study finds that AI-generated nudes were rated as more aesthetically appealing, sexually attractive, and pleasant than real images, despite the fact that AI-generated images were rated as being less realistic than actual photographs. https://t.co/V9KW2JHrVR

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Everyone blasts Passport Bros for chasing 'traditional' women abroad... but what do those women actually want? What are your thoughts?

https://t.co/GTs6k8w3F2

#PassportBros #InternationalDating #DatingAdvice @PassportBro

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

"Narcissist" went from a clinical diagnosis to a TikTok dating term. "Situationship" made the Oxford shortlist. 🚩surged 455% in a single week. Here's how dating language changed from 2020–2025. @MerriamWebster @Tinder @urbandictionary

[Dating and Mating @Dating_Mating]

Everyone rages about male 'passport bros' exploiting power imbalances abroad… but when older Western women travel for romance/sex with younger locals. Full breakdown of the double standard:
https://t.co/G1leMDnE41

#PassportBros #Dating #RedPill #SexTourism @90DayFiance