@BarackObama But, the Dems have no leaders. All they could say is what they didn’t want. Where is the plan.
You may not like Trump, at least he has a plan and he is acting on it. Loudly. Wake up.
Dads In Recovery, why am I missing my kids life?
This was not the plan. Now I'm sober and trying to reconnect with my kids.
I have made a mess and hardly know where to start.
The court system is not designed to create a trusted relationship with their mom and her family, and that's really what I want.
In twelve-step recovery, I am seeing my part. Now to rebuild.
Here is what I need to do.
The shift from victim to responsible is such a relief.
Men, dads, can easily get stuck in their victim story and want to fight, holding on to the idea that they have been wronged.
Often, that is at the expense of the relationship with their kids.
When we own our part and let go of blame, the struggle fades and love reappears.
Our kids are the big winners.
They need their dads.
It doesn't matter what their mother has done or not done.
Just get over it.
Wow, so many dads in Recovery would rather spend thousands or hundreds of thousands to get custody than do the work of healing.
We can get attached to the victim's story or stay angry.
Doing the work may be harder and not seem like the best option. I say that Love is the way, the best way for everyone, especially our kids.
Holding the vision of you being the Dad you want to be. Active, trusted, present.
It's so easy to lose hope that you can get your family back, if not reunited, at least co-parenting.
When do men grow up? After we become dads? Maybe never.
We pretty much all agree that our alcoholism and addiction stunted our emotional growth. When we sober up in our 30s or 40s, we are often still emotionally frozen in our teens.
Yet, we have kids.
What to do about a thing like that?
We are all affected by this.
Time to WAKE UP.