SETUJU.
1. Dia yg bikin planning hamil, melahirkan, menyusui dan MPASI.
2. Dia yg mandiin.
3. Dia yg nidurin.
4. Dia yg ngajak main.
Cari yg mau jadi Bapak bukan yg cuma mau punya anak biar serasa lengkap jadi suami. Cari yg mau kerja sama bareng-bareng besarin anak. Ga ada benar salah, namanya sama-sama baru pertama kali jd orang tua. Yg penting harus siap dgn segala resikonya.
Sekali anak lahir, ga mungkin bisa dimasukin dalam perut lg. Uda tanggung kita sebagai org tua 🙏🏻
One of the unfortunate side effects of practising islam without an understanding of akhlak is that some muslims often equate cleanliness with morality, totally forgetting about inner spirituality which includes cleansing the heart of ill-will towards others and arrogance.
There is a certain type of person everywhere now, especially online.
He consumes endless information every day: philosophy, psychology, productivity, spirituality, neuroscience, business, self-improvement, history.
He knows a little about everything and deeply experiences almost nothing.
His entire identity becomes built around understanding instead of living.
He watches videos about confidence instead of speaking confidently. Reads about discipline instead of becoming disciplined. Studies relationships instead of learning how to love. Consumes motivational content instead of taking action.
He feels intelligent because he is constantly mentally stimulated. But stimulation is not transformation.
Most of the time, knowledge becomes emotional protection. Reality is unpredictable. Reality humiliates. Reality exposes weakness. Books and ideas do not.
Inside information, he can continue imagining himself as intelligent, deep, insightful, different from ordinary people. So he remains trapped in preparation.
He constantly feels as if he is "becoming" someone, while his real life remains strangely untouched. He develops sophisticated language for problems he never confronts directly. He can explain human behavior beautifully while being unable to handle ordinary discomfort, rejection, uncertainty, loneliness, or risk.
He slowly turns life into observation instead of participation.
The internet rewards this personality heavily. He receives validation for sounding aware rather than becoming capable.
Eventually, he begins confusing self-analysis with growth and information with wisdom.
But beneath the intelligence usually exists the same thing: fear. Fear of failure. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of reality answering back.
Because action destroys fantasy. The moment he truly acts, he can no longer hide inside potential.
‘책을 많이 읽으면 말솜씨가 느나요?’에 대한
민경 편집자님의 답변이 너무 너무 좋다 ….
“책을 많이 읽으면 용기가 생겨요. 제가 생각했을 때 문학 작품의 90% 이상은 다 실패한 사람들의 이야기예요. 슬픈 일이 있어서 좌절을 딛고 일어나거나 그게 나에게 영원히 트라우마가 됐지만 그래도 살아가는 이야기가 주 내용인데 그런 이야기를 많이 읽다보면 다른 사람들을 응원하게 되잖아요. 소설 속 주인공들을 응원하게 되잖아요. 그러면 자기 삶도 응원할 수 있어요. 그래 나도 열심히 살아보자 하는 근거 없는 용기가 생깁니다.”
Evlendiğin an, bekar hayatındaki özgürlük ve çılgın partiler (ki aslında evde pijamayla dizi izliyordun) gözünde bir anda bir Rönesans tablosu gibi romantikleşir. Evlenmediğin an ise pazar kahvaltısında tek başına tost yerken, evli çiftlerin kuş cıvıltıları eşliğinde organik reçel yediği yanılsamasına kapılırsın. Sorun evlilikte ya da bekarlıkta değil tatlım, sorun senin o ulaşamadığın öteki seçenekte gizli olduğunu sandığın ama aslında hiç var olmamış olan o gizemli mutlulukta. Yani neyi seçersen seç, o seçmediğin yol sana hep kaçan balık büyük olur dedirtecektir.
İnsan, elindekini değil, her zaman elinde olmayanı arzular. Arzu, doğası gereği tatmin edilemez bir şeydir. Çünkü arzu, nesnenin kendisine değil, o nesnenin sende yarattığı eksiklik duygusuna yöneliktir.
Living abroad benar-benar mengubah perspektif & cara berpikir gue.
Ternyata, kita bisa mulai APAPUN dari nol tanpa melihat usia.
Standard sosial di Indonesia jadi terlihat toxic. Tentang, usia sekian harus lulus S1, usia sekian harus kerja, menikah, punya anak, yadda-yadda.
I don't think anybody really grasps how desperate this situation is.
University professors are now saying they are unable to teach history because reading long books and passages is how a person learns history. College kids are incapable of reading more than a few pages.
Some classes don't assign any reading at all now, only lectures.
There is an assumption among the people managing this decline that reading is just a way of receiving information. It isn't. Proper reading is how we build the mental muscle to synthesize ideas and evaluate them.
If the catastrophic decline in reading and literacy is not addressed now, we risk losing everything.
Western civilization cannot survive the death of reading because it was built by people with the kind of cognitive depth that a culture of deep reading brings:
Complex reasoning, extended internal dialogue, the capacity to hold opposing ideas in tension. Our systems and institutions are complex, and they require well ordered minds to maintain them.
Reading forms minds, and the West was built by the richest minds in history.
Unpopular opinion:
I rarely meet men in real life who are as remarkable as the ones written in movies, but I constantly meet women who are far more impressive than the women movies give us.
Tapi lepas jadi Khalifah, Saidina Umar RA amatlah lemah lembut orangnya.
Antara perkataan pertama yang keluar daripada mulut Umar RA ketika dilantik jadi khalifah, beliau berdoa:
اللهم إني شديد فليني، وإني ضعيف فقوني، وإني بخيل فسخني
“Ya Allah, sesungguhnya aku ini keras, maka lembutkanlah aku; sesungguhnya aku ini lemah, maka kuatkanlah aku; dan sesungguhnya aku ini bakhil, maka jadikanlah aku pemurah”.
Umar RA juga berkata,
ما كان الله ليراني أرى نفسي أهلاً لمجلس أبي بكر
“Aku sesekali takkan membiarkan diriku layak untuk menduduki kedudukan Abu Bakar”.
ada kenal sorang budak kena langgar dgn rohingya. takda lesen takda roadtax lah ofkos and kena repair sendiri rm3k+, so if u think rohingya issue is small issue, i pray a rohingya langgar kereta u. and claimed it on you bcs only u has insurance and dia takda so u cant claim lol
I think he is privileged enough to not see the harm and the effect of this refugees
Only if he works here together with us in KKM. I dont think these words ni dia sanggup nak ucapkan.
Korang tau kan. How hard for us rakyat now to even have a decent service in KKM due to manpower? To treat refugees lagi
Entahla. Bercakap mendongak ke langit, sekali sekala pandang la ke bawah lihat orang yang tidak senasib dengan kita.