TuppenceHapenny 💙

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@ClaireElliott2 @girl_tinder Having said this I just read your post explaining the app and the agreement you have. That also offers lots of explanations for his texts. BUT the big flag is the fact he won’t talk about it - I guess there are other messages where he says that or has he just gone NC?

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@ClaireElliott2 @girl_tinder Ohhh I think this is like the ‘I asked for an open marriage but my wife’s getting more than I ‘ kind of a deal. Was FBW his idea? Could be he wants the freedoms to see and sleep with whoever he wants but you’re supposed to just be sitting at home waiting for him to want you

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@magicfinbow @girl_tinder I thought the same to be honest 😂

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@murderberd @davidgmandel @wileylittlefox Was this aimed at me?

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@ba69034585 @jae_sumna @davidgmandel @wileylittlefox None of my ex’s friends or family believed he could do what he did. But he still did it.

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@WeeTimorous So maybe lessons on both sides & an understanding the abuse we have suffered is different and had different effects.

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@WeeTimorous & the way words like yours and the original post, telling me I’m being something I know I’m not, or at least I don’t have that intent, is just like my abuser telling me my feelings were wrong, or it was my reaction that was wrong, not his behaviour.. 2/

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@KelleighDahl @davidgmandel @wileylittlefox Is this aimed at me @KelleighDahl ?

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@WeeTimorous I wasn’t aware I was showing aggression but again, thanks for deciding for me what my feelings are.

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@WeeTimorous @TimothyL0W3 @davidgmandel @wileylittlefox I was going to try and explain why the phrase ‘tempers will run high’ ie implying our reaction to the possible meaning of David’s question is an unreasonable response, is upsetting to DV survivors, but instead, I’ll try to be glad you don’t understand.

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@WeeTimorous @TimothyL0W3 @davidgmandel @wileylittlefox If David had said ‘what reasons did they give for not being able to leave’ there would have been no ambiguity. But if you read the replies, I’m not the only person who interpreted his comment as I did. 1/

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@anon_opin One of the few things I can remember for O level economics is something about elasticity of supply and demand. Maybe I can’t really remember it actually😂 but I think that might be the theory in play here.

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@FrDidymus Every time without fail the theme tune would start before they left and no matter how much I turned the volume down, there would be my dad appearing downstairs and turning it off! 2/2

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@FrDidymus Nope, I also wasn’t allowed to watch ITV. I can also remember praying my parents would go out on a Saturday before Dallas started as I wasn’t allowed to watch that and I was desperate to join in the chat at school on Monday. 1/

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@DeeDeeh328 @davidgmandel @wileylittlefox I think if you read the other replies you will see I wasn’t the only one who interpreted the comment in that way.

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@TimothyL0W3 @davidgmandel @wileylittlefox Could you explain this comment please? Tempers run high?

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@davidgmandel @wileylittlefox and known what it’s like to have another human being totally destroy you. And then please stop asking questions like this that makes it feel like the women like myself who couldn’t leave were at fault. 2/2

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@davidgmandel @wileylittlefox You’ve written a book on DV and you don’t know abused women say they can’t leave? It’s very simple - they say they can’t because they can’t. And if you can’t understand that then be very grateful that it’s because you have never been in their shoes 1/

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@Kate_Retired Sorry but if he’s taking moviprep then
I’m with him - that stuff is literally drain cleaner. And then when the effects happen it very much feels like you’re dying. I’m with him on this one.