there is no pressure to feel one thing about abusive parents. there could remain warmth for the regularly volatile bitch + funny memories for the coward who sat idle when you were hurt, who took their stress out on you. we are human w an exceptional capacity to feel in variety.
@Adwoa_Naii I remember the mom got arrested for murder. Fun thing about Asian parents, if it didn't escalate to permanent disabilities or child death, they don't give a shit
When I was young, there was a somewhat famous story among parents. A mom struck her son on a fatal spot and he died instantly. The mom thought he was playing dead, and beat his corpse angrily again and again. It was only until he started turning cold did she realize he's gone
A mother will do the worst imaginable thing to their daughter and they will still be bragging that they’re better than their own mother that did worse to them
Stop having children if you have trauma you haven’t healed from. Stop having children if you salivate about being violent towards them. Stop having children if the thought of your child making mistakes makes you abusive. Just stop.
Fleeing from beatings that could potentially kill you is ALSO to serve the parents. You keep yourself alive not out of your own safety, but to prevent your parent from becoming a murderer and bring them guilt and injust
...Yeah think about the logic here bro
That's all bye
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Before I mute this I want to share a saying that never sat right with me
小杖则受,大杖则走
"Endure small beatings, flee from big beatings"
The explanation for this saying is, enduring discipline is showing filial piety and keeping the family hierarchy in peace
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When I was young, there was a somewhat famous story among parents. A mom struck her son on a fatal spot and he died instantly. The mom thought he was playing dead, and beat his corpse angrily again and again. It was only until he started turning cold did she realize he's gone
@flechal2ofc@InkedPen8 Black, Asian, Latino, I'm not dismissing white kids who also get beaten half dead but in the grand scheme of things it really feels like POC just have abuse baked into their culture 😭🙏
@CKem631093@backseetBETTY Dudeeeeeeeee. My mom tried that once and she said "Your future roommates/spouse would do this to you for hogging the shower for too long, if you do this enough times they might even secretly murder you!"
Like dudeeeee what is wrong with you mommmmmmmmmm
@megastalli@backseetBETTY Aye. If the son had survived and grew up this would likely happen... and as all abusive parents do, they magically get amnesia over what they've done
@resurgenc@backseetBETTY I don't want to sound cynical as fuck but at least my mom didn't deliberately refuse to take me to the hospital for a cracked bone or encourage me to cut myself or rape me constantly like my friends' moms
While we are discussing physical abuse, let’s not forget verbal abuse. The reason we see many young people with severe cases of low self esteem is because they had parents who made them feel absolutely worthless.
also, beating your child is a form of grooming, even if the parent’s intent isn’t sexual or predatory. you’re conditioning your child to accept violation, tolerate abuse, and remain silent.
you’ve created a victim out of your own child. are you proud of yourself?
Notice how """"religious"""" parents always blame the children for being demons/witches, but never their spouse, their siblings, their parents, their boss, their coworkers?
They just want a shiny divine excuse to beat down on something they have control over
@BitsBobsAndBabs@1o1Animation I first saw the news on a Chinese website and it had a bit more detail, I remember(?) reading the kid showed signs of organ failure but the mom dismissed it, and the kid cried "My mom is gonna kill me" before the beating started but neighbors assumed he was exaggerating
@SvuLover1 Unfortunately a lot of abusive parents get enraged at the mere idea of being "disrespected". In this case the mom thought the son was trying to "escape punishment" by playing dead. Most parents would also beat you for crying in pain (they saw it as rebellion)
@CKem631093@backseetBETTY Gahhhhhh I feel you on the first sentence!!! Always hiding behind the excuse of "We're doing this to 'prepare' you for the oh-so-scary world out there!!!"
Like bitch I come home to heal not to get double hurt!!!