Tamy ✝️

Austrian 🇦🇹 with Serbian 🇧🇦🇷🇸 ancestors. Activist and writer.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

The older I get, the more I relate to Amy from The Big Bang Theory.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@StarStripeStark @catalystaf @UBERSOY1 Dad has an Austrian ex-wife whose family tried to stop their relationship on ethnical grounds. I think the word "nationalist" is sufficient for your description.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@_MI_KAEL @UBERSOY1 The same women who don't go on dates have almost no friends either. It's connected with each other to be introverted.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@StarStripeStark @catalystaf @UBERSOY1 Ultra nationalists might support deporting us to Bosnia.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@Molaau6 @RealAchBinFul I mean, it's fine if you want to look past it by not wanting to miss out on a very genuine and loving convert, that might be otherwise your dream spouse. But I don't think "realism" should be the reason when being so young.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@Molaau6 @RealAchBinFul But not in your age group?

And what does it matter, you only need one husband and not 95% of the male population anyway.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@lurkerwaves @jmrphy There's a lot to culture when it comes to this. My mother pointed out, that when we visit the Balkans, almost no one has any tattoos. It's just viewed as a waste of money to pay for physical pain, worse health and to probably regret how it looks in the future.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@Malesori4 @BirthGauge @AR_Demografie I mean, my cousin in Austria is getting child benefit with every child, while in Bosnia you only get it with every second child. Not that different in Germany either.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

My niece once asked me what to do about the kids at school taking all her food. Not by force, she just couldn't say no and then gave away too much by accident. I told her, that I don't know, since both me and my mom did the same, so it just runs in the family I guess.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@UBERSOY1 They're just usually focusing on career instead, even if it seems far away, or doing some hobbies. One friend just cooks all day and listens to music, cries a little, then goes to Church and acts completely fine. If it wasn't for the moms gossiping, no one would find out anything

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@UBERSOY1 Why do men seem to deal worse with this than women? Most of my friends and some of my cousins never dated anyone or kissed anyone in their 20s and 30s, but they're not even close to suicide. Even when missing a parent, having almost no friends and being broke, they're still going

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@StarStripeStark @catalystaf @UBERSOY1 My parents cheer me up about never having had a boyfriend at almost 30 by constantly bringing up that they were both divorced young and most people they know who married young also got divorced after a short time and that is worse than just skipping the whole thing all together.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

The most common reason I hear from Balkan girls in real life of why they never had a boyfriend in their 20s and 30s is a claim that most men only desire intimacy and nothing else. I rarely hear the same from Western girls, that seem to go through serial monogamy a lot instead.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

I saw a post on r/Serbia on Reddit where women would discuss what they would rather choose: ugly virgin or handsome whore. Not a single woman chose the second. They were writing entire paragraphs about dreaming to spoil a man whose first love they are. We all desire that a lot.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

I think it's connected to the fact that a lot of Boomer slavic men flirt with other women in front of their wives and daugthers, so the new generation of girls prioritizes loyalty over anything else. Women in Serbia are also very educated in STEM, so materialism is less relevant.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@DavidKemp_1983 @lizisamused Most people who married young in that generation divorced though, so what is there to miss out? It would be different if most people were happy and you were missing out, but missing out on break ups doesn't seem that bad.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@lizisamused We had so many girls becoming single moms or crying in the toilet after seeing their ex (in the same class) smooch a girl from the parallel class. It was definitely not bad to skip that. Not a single high school couple from my old school ended up staying together after school!

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@TradAdvocate No, because teenagers have the highest maternal mortality rates and I was fully asexual before my 20s, as were most of my friends. The only girls I met feeling sexual attraction really young (starting from 12 to 16 years old) all grew up without fathers & brothers, or were Romani

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@Nightskyshowers @scotchsoupmaker You're talking about Western boomer problems that we're getting rid off already. We're returning to the culture my mother grew up in with not TV, in which almost no girl had her first kiss before 18. This is more normal than the artificial porn culture the old media promoted.

[Tamy ✝️ @Diaryofmiracles]

@gravygreenhair I've been told that I look like a girl, even when dressed up as a guy for carneval. And I could not play male roles in school theatre, even when we lacked the boys to play them, because of being unable to walk manly even when actively trying.

You just are what you are in life.