Lol you just need to like her man that’s all, even her lame jokes and her crazy dances will be funny, that ugly bonnet will look cute. Those songs while she takes a shower or while make food will make you wanna keep her company 🥹♥️
Did you know that one of the most efficient ways of getting the best out of a woman, and out of a relationship with one, is by being nonchalant?
Whatever women generally agree to hate in men is often what you should be if you want the best from them.
The reason women say they hate nonchalant men is because nonchalance reminds them that they must be on their best behaviour around such men. And women do not want to be on their best behaviour. They want to lovey-dovey their way out of the consequences of their bad behaviour.
Nonchalant men provide no such emotional leverage. As the men do not care enough about her to even fear losing. And that automatically makes her dispensable. So she either has to come correct, maintain order, or leave.
Often, it is difficult for her to leave because of the trade-offs, because of what she stands to lose. So she will crash out, complain about your nonchalance, and attempt to get you emotionally attached, invested, and consumed, so that she can misbehave and get away with it.
Nonchalance is how you foster order in an otherwise chaotic species. It is how you maintain order and, consequently, receive effort in a relationship with a woman.
When you are nonchalant, you send a clear message that the relationship is not based on emotions alone, but on something more structural and stable - something that equally requires reasoning and orderliness from her to function.
However, you must know:
Women complaining about your nonchalance is not necessarily because they hate you, but because they love you and cannot guarantee how long they can remain well-behaved before they slip and risk losing you.
She fears losing you because, through your nonchalance, you have made it clear that you will pull the plug if she crosses lines she should not have crossed. And women, in their nature, cannot help but want to test boundaries.
If you are “chalant,” she senses emotional leverage over you.
And you know what that brings?
A woman's worst behaviour.
Goodluck. Or congratulations.
Dem fuck my babe you dey call me "weak man" wetin concern me nau 😭😭
Make I go hold the fuck??, abi make I unfuck the fuck??? Abi make the fuck no for fuck??? 😭😭😂
Women think a man’s biggest fear is ending up alone.
It’s not.
His real fear is giving his all to a woman who drains his peace, kills his ambition, empties his pockets, and still makes him feel like he’s never enough.
Sometimes fighting for your rights includes fighting for the rights of people you hate. In fact, the greatest test of your principles is whether they shift based on your prejudices. That’s because principles don’t work in isolation; they work in systems. If you cannot see how it all trickles down to you and will lead to your own doom, I don’t even know what to say.
A lot of marriages didn’t end because of abuse or betrayal. They ended because a bitter friend kept whispering, “you deserve better” into someone’s ear long enough to destroy a family.
A woman will be more obsessed with the guy who didn’t invest anything in her but she slept with him once or twice than…
The guy who invested everything in her including marrying her.
Infact, she will constantly compare you to that guy whom she slept with once or twice and then he disappeared
“High Net-worth broke” is another type of suffering no one explains. You might find a billionaire indoors in his mega-mansion unable to buy fuel in his 5 car convoy to attend an event. He locks his gate and avoids visitors hoping he can solve their problems. I once helped a G-wagon bros with N50k to fuel his car as he was running late for a flight and only had 3 miles with 0 Naira in all his accounts.
I was fueling my classic mercedes at the forte oil on admiralty road in lekkk and he casually walked up to me and told me his ordeal. I didn’t even think twice or judge him, I just asked them to fuel him quickly. Apparently his driver took the car on an errand and left it on empty.
He got to Abuja and transferred N250k to me about a month later. I totally forgot the encounter.
Great guy and today he is one of my biggest customers at my eyewear stores.
I too had been in his shoes, so I understand how it happens.
That Rich man you look up too, might need your little help once in a while. 🙏🏾
Will Smith can get a bitch 30 years younger with less mileage that no one knows.
Jada won't be able to find another high caliber man that will take her old used ass seriously.
This is the paradox older successful women must deal with. Their high standards doom their relationship options.