@RebelliousSlut Might be silly. But it helps when you decide something about them that's a romantic dealbreaker and remind yourself of it. Maybe they are already partnered (and poly) or you disagree politically or their lifestyle is too different. I've used this when sleeping with exes
@RebelliousSlut My only advice is to compartmentalize: only talk to them and see them for sex purposes. Aftercare is one thing, but you shouldn't be hanging out and cuddling for long. Only talk to them when you're making plans to meet up, not to catch up or learn deep things about them