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Вчера наткнулась случайно на "Экзамен по женщинам" и просто не могла остановиться смеяться, это разъëб
Marriage (or any positive romantic relationship) is sustained by grace, not emotional thrill. It is this grace that births patience and positive communication. You can have everything but if you don't have grace, you do not belong to the institution.
I would define grace here as the "internalised belief that your partner - the person you vetted and chose to be with - would not maliciously subject you to harm".
This is not to say that they won't do you wrong. But that this wrong will never be intentionally malicious in its manifestation. I should be able to trust that you mean me no harm, even in the errors that you make.
Only then can we focus on the problem, and not you vs me.
Unfortunately, the problem many make is in defining their grace through the partners. That it is the responsibility of the partner to make them gracious. Or trusting. But truth is, this disposition should exist long before the partner comes along.
This thing of he or she brings it out of me is a lazy attempt at delegation of duty. You should be those things before the partner arrives. The partner should complement what already exists, and has been trained for years. Otherwise, you will be postponing the inevitable. You are either gracious or not, and it will manifest overtime in how you treat and engage your partner.
The initial rays of romance tends to conceal a lot, but who you inherently are will inform the direction of the relationship. It will always prevail. So before you were treating your man right, how were you treating the gate man? Before you were kind to your wife, how were you addressing your mother?
Подруга недавно рассказала, что ее однажды родители в детстве решили припугнуть, привезли к дверям детдома и там оставили. Вернулись минут через 10 за абсолютно бьющимся в истерике ребенком. Нет слов просто.