junior pm: i have to run my first global alignment meeting and i'm freaking out
senior pm: what's your plan?
junior pm: schedule the call, walk everyone through the proposal, get buy-in
senior pm: how many people?
junior pm: like 8 stakeholders across 4 time zones
senior pm: and you're meeting them for the first time... in the alignment meeting?
junior pm: well yeah. that's the point of the meeting
senior pm: there's your problem
junior pm: what do you mean?
senior pm: alignment meetings don't create alignment
junior pm: then what's the point?
senior pm: they confirm alignment you already have
junior pm: i don't follow
senior pm: have you talked to any of these 8 people yet?
junior pm: i sent them the pre-read
senior pm: that's not talking
junior pm: so i should... call them first?
senior pm: every single one. 1:1. before the big meeting
junior pm: that's 8 separate calls just to prep for 1 meeting
senior pm: now you're getting it
junior pm: seems like a lot
senior pm: it's the whole job
junior pm: what would i even say in these calls?
senior pm: you're not saying. you're listening
junior pm: listening to what?
senior pm: their fears. their motivations. their hidden objections
junior pm: why wouldn't they just say that in the meeting?
senior pm: politics. pride. audience
junior pm: so they'll tell me privately what they won't say publicly?
senior pm: if you ask right
junior pm: how do i ask right?
senior pm: frame it as soliciting their expertise
junior pm: "i'm new to this and want your input"?
senior pm: exactly. people love feeling like the wise advisor
junior pm: and then i just... shut up?
senior pm: shut up and write everything down
junior pm: what am i looking for?
senior pm: conflicting goals between stakeholders. who wants what and why
junior pm: ok say i do all this. what changes?
senior pm: two things
junior pm: go on
senior pm: first, you adjust your proposal based on what you learned
junior pm: makes sense
senior pm: second, you sprinkle their exact phrases into your presentation
junior pm: why?
senior pm: people support what they helped create
junior pm: even if they didn't technically create it
senior pm: especially then
junior pm: what about the difficult ones? the ones who'll disagree no matter what?
senior pm: you pre-negotiate
junior pm: how?
senior pm: in your 1:1, you say "i know you have concerns about X. i can't fully address them. can you disagree and commit in the meeting?"
junior pm: you can just ask that?
senior pm: you'd be surprised how often the answer is yes
junior pm: because you asked privately
senior pm: because you respected them enough to ask
junior pm: so the alignment meeting itself is basically...
senior pm: a ceremony
junior pm: confirming decisions already made
senior pm: in hallways. in 1:1s. in coffee chats
junior pm: the meeting before the meeting
senior pm: now you're ready to run alignment
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