They start billing you.
They leave your messages unread or calls not returned
They don’t want you to sit close or move close
They keep making excuses with seeing you physically
They reply messages with one-word
They don’t compliment you when you send your pictures or when you’re dressed well and expecting a compliment
They’re not proud to let their friends or family members meet you.
These signs will be there but men will be using money to flaunt.
I got a shocking news yesterday. A doctor who works in a specialist hospital ( mother and child), run by a foundation, resigned from the job. He is an O&G doctor. More than 90% of the patients in that hospital, request to see him on every appointment. Patients travel from far and
THE VAGINA IS NOT A ROSE GARDEN: Why Self-Cleansing Does Not Mean Odourless
Dear Mr Sir,
"If the vagina is self-cleansing, why does it stink? Where does the smell come from?"
It is a reasonable question, perhaps. But it reveals an interesting misunderstanding about the female body: the assumption that anything clean must smell like perfume, and anything that smells must therefore be dirty.
Let us correct that assumption.
The vagina is self-cleansing. It is not self-perfuming.
And there is a rather important difference.
First, understand what the vagina actually does.
The vagina is a remarkable biological environment. It is not an empty tunnel waiting for soap, antiseptics and the occasional intervention from a man who has mistaken his personal preferences for medical advice.
It has its own ecosystem.
Within this ecosystem live millions of microorganisms, particularly beneficial bacteria called Lactobacilli. These bacteria help maintain an acidic vaginal environment, with a typical pH of approximately 3.8–4.5 in women of reproductive age.
This acidity is important because it helps protect against the overgrowth of harmful microorganisms.
And then there is the natural process of vaginal discharge.
The vagina continuously sheds dead cells, produces secretions and helps move mucus, cellular debris and other material out of the vaginal canal.
That is what self-cleansing means.
It does not mean that the vagina is sterile. It does not mean that it has no smell. And it certainly does not mean that it should smell like a bottle of expensive French perfume.
So, where does the smell come from?
Well, the human body is not particularly interested in meeting our cosmetic expectations.
The vagina naturally has an odour, and that odour can vary throughout the menstrual cycle.
Some women have a mildly acidic smell. Others describe theirs as musky, slightly sour or simply characteristic of their bodies.
And these variations are perfectly normal.
There are several reasons for this.
1. The bacteria.
The beneficial bacteria living in the vagina produce metabolic substances that contribute to its natural smell. They are not necessarily causing an infection. In fact, they are part of the body's defence mechanism.
2. Menstruation.
Menstrual blood contains iron and other substances that can temporarily change vaginal odour. This explains why some women notice a metallic smell during their periods.
3. Sexual intercourse.
Semen is alkaline, while the vagina is naturally acidic. When semen enters the vagina, it can temporarily alter the vaginal pH and change its usual smell.
Yes, sometimes the smell you are complaining about has something to do with the biological contribution you brought to the situation.
4. Sweat and moisture.
Here is another distinction worth understanding: the vagina is internal, but the vulva is external.
The vulva has sweat glands, and the surrounding skin produces natural secretions. Sweat, moisture and skin bacteria can combine to produce an odour.
So, before accusing a woman's vagina of smelling, perhaps you should first understand the difference between the vagina and the vulva.
Anatomy matters.
But what about an unpleasant or fishy smell?
Now, this is where we move from normal physiology to clinical medicine.
An unusually strong, persistent or offensive vaginal odour may indicate an underlying problem.
One common cause is Bacterial Vaginosis (BV).
BV occurs when the normal balance of vaginal bacteria is disrupted. It often produces a characteristic fishy smell, which may become more noticeable after sexual intercourse.
Other possible causes include:
Trichomoniasis: A sexually transmitted infection that can cause unpleasant-smelling discharge, sometimes yellow-green.
Retained tampons or foreign bodies: A forgotten tampon can cause a particularly offensive smell.
Other vaginal infections: These may cause changes in discharge, irritation and odour.
And no, every woman with an unusual vaginal smell does not automatically have a sexually transmitted infection.
Medicine requires investigation, not assumptions.
Persistent or unusual odour, especially when accompanied by discharge, itching, burning or pelvic pain, deserves medical assessment.
Should women wash inside their vaginas?
No.
And I cannot emphasise this enough.
The vagina does not require internal washing with soap, antiseptics, perfumes or commercially advertised feminine hygiene products.
Douching and introducing perfumed products can disrupt the natural vaginal environment and increase the risk of irritation and bacterial vaginosis.
The vulva, however, should be gently washed with water. There is no need to turn personal hygiene into a chemical experiment.
The body has an effective cleaning mechanism. Sometimes, the most helpful thing we can do is stop interfering with it.
Here is the analogy I want you to remember.
Your mouth produces saliva. It contains millions of microorganisms. It has its own natural smell, and even after brushing your teeth, it does not smell like a field of roses throughout the day.
Yet nobody concludes that the mouth is inherently dirty because it has an odour.
Why, then, do we expect a woman's vagina to smell like a garden that has just been watered?
The female reproductive system is not a fragrance department.
And women should not be made to feel embarrassed about the normal biological processes of their bodies.
So, Mr Sir,
A healthy vagina has a natural smell. Its odour may change with menstruation, sexual activity, hormonal fluctuations and other physiological processes.
An abnormal or persistent offensive smell may be a symptom that requires medical attention.
But a vagina does not need to smell like perfume to be healthy, and a woman does not need to subject herself to internal washing to prove that she understands personal hygiene.
The vagina is self-cleansing, not self-perfuming. It is an organ, not an air freshener.
Perhaps the next time a man complains that a woman's vagina does not smell like roses, we should ask him a rather simple question:
When did he last expect his own body to smell like a flower garden?
Sometimes, the problem is not the woman's anatomy. It is the man's understanding of it.
What's this trend of abled Nigerian women setting camera and begging online?
I have been online for less than 24 hours and have seen like three tweets of Nigerian women begging profoundly.
If life was that easy, every man will set camera, do makeup and start crying when they need financial help.
Mind you, these are abled young women who can go out and hustle like everyone else but they'll wear makeup, set camera and start dropping fake tears for the simps who'll eventually donate for them.
It was first Egokuwait, then Ugegbe and now Chioma. Always igbo women! Bunch of senior men with wickedness rooted in their blood.
After claiming to be independent and insulting men, when they need financial help, they run back to the same men.
Unproductive bed to bed midfielders.
Sometimes, the greatest act of self-love is walking away from situations that repeatedly remind you that you are not valued.
Don’t wait you feel invalidated.
Stay informed, stay alive.
An APC branded bus got stuck in thick muddy water.
Everyone was just passing and minding their businesses.
Nobody even offered to help them push the bus. 😂💀