Dr. Nydia Conrad

Clinical psychologist decoding human behavior, relationships, manipulation, and all the oddball things humans do.

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Sexual satisfaction rises in the first year of a relationship, then drops steadily. If you put the same effort into your current relationship that you would put into a new one, what would change?
#relationships #psychology

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You keep choosing the same kind of partner and calling it bad luck. Freud called it repetition compulsion: the mind returns to old wounds hoping for a different ending.
#dating #psychology

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The trait that irritates you most in your partner is often one you refuse to see in yourself.

[Kingmaker @MindHealthMaker]

Unfortunately, you can deny your childhood trauma all you want, but your romantic life will reveal the truth every time.

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Divorce is at a 50-year low. One big reason: people are marrying later, after 25, and with more education. Both make divorce less likely. What do you think is the right age to get married?

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Researchers filmed couples sharing good news with each other. Partners who got excited and asked questions ("That's huge! How did it happen?") had happier, longer-lasting relationships. A flat "that's nice" did almost as much damage as a put-down. Which is worse?

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15% of married adults now have sex once or twice a year or not at all. The research on bringing desire back starts outside the bedroom. What matters more, novelty or feeling understood?

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1 in 3 Americans now sleep apart from their partner. The research says couples may be giving up more than sleep. Do you think couples should go to bed at the same time?

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People who cheat once are 3x more likely to cheat in their next relationship. What do you think they're really chasing?

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Researchers found 4 types of cheating: sexual, emotional, online, and solitary. People judge their own behavior more gently than a partner's. Where do you draw the line?

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People assume affairs happen in dead relationships. In a survey of nearly 2,000 people seeking affairs, most still loved their spouse. What do you think drives it?
#infidelity

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Does your week look like this? Half of married couples don't have sex every week. Research says once a week is where happiness tops out. So should couples put it on the calendar, or wait for the stars to align?
#relationships #marriage

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If you keep having the same fight, one of these 5 is probably missing. Which one is it for the two of you?
#relationships #marriage

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In a 30-day study, pressure not to feel sad predicted more depression symptoms the next day. What do you say when someone asks how you are and you're not okay?
#beok #mentalhealth

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The November Theory says this month decides whether you make it to January. The divorce data points somewhere else. Did a holiday ever change your mind about someone? #NovemberTheory

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You took a break and came back, and ten minutes later the same fight started again. Gottman's lab puts the minimum at 20 minutes. Which of these do you two skip?

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In one study, abused children saw anger in a face at 40%. Other children needed 70%. Some signs of complex PTSD pass for personality. Which of these have you seen misread?

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Two people can work the same 60 hour week for different reasons. One is drawn to the work. The other feels guilty when they stop.
Only the first predicts better health and performance.
Which one are you?
#workaholism #burnout

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"What you tolerate, you teach."
Newlyweds who forgave a partner were nearly twice as likely to see a repeat the next day. Agreeable partners were the exception.
Forgiveness works best on people already planning to do better.
Ever forgiven something and watched it repeat?

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Resentment rarely starts with a betrayal. Usually it starts with something small, repeated.
Seven habits that make a partner feel taken for granted, with the research behind each.
Which one shows up most in your relationship?
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