One of my friends said, "you have interesting view about marriage. But we know you to be a generous person. You don't even know how to be unkind. All this one you are forming that your woman will invest her money in the home, we know she will enjoy your money. Your guys and people you don't even know are enjoying your kindness. Haba!"
I just smiled and explained to him. I'll write down what I told him.
You are looking at it monetarily. It is not about money. I don't have any attachment to money. The only reason I want to be rich is to expand my reach of kindness. If I'm always kind to strangers and friends, then you should know my partner is enjoying my money too. But it is not about money, it is about commitment. Whether I need her money or not, is irrelevant. Her money must be invested in the home the way mine is invested in the home. I'll eat her money the way she is eating my money. The point is, where your money is, that is where your heart is. You cannot buy love and commitment by footing all the bills. Someone who isn't giving to you habitually, is not in love with you. It is not a male attribute to give, it is a love attribute. Odogwu is not a flex. The whole point of marriage, is to do life together.
Everything I have belongs to her and the kids. If she doesn't know that, it is disappointing. Remember the story of the prodigal son? The one that stayed with the father was angry the father forgave the prodigal son because he didnt know that everything the father had, belonged to him.
❤️😁 Odion Ighalo asked his mother!
“Mom, you still have this your Man United kit?”
🗣️ She said: “Yes, I like it more than other kits, this is my club. United forever, coming up again”
What a legend 🇳🇬🫂