We need to have the right expectations for those around us.
Are the expectations clear?
Have you communicated them well?
Are the expectations realistic?
Stay detached. Don't hyperfixate on small details.
Use time and distance as a tool for clarity.
And don't mistake what's happening for what's going on.
How do you detach?
Practice detachment with these simple tactics:
1. Taking a breath.
2. Stepping back physically
3. Giving yourself a timeout
4. Delaying an email response.
Our egos don’t like to take blame.
But it’s on us as leaders to see where we failed to communicate effectively and help our troops clearly understand what their roles and responsibilities are and how their actions impact the bigger strategic picture.
Extreme Ownership requires checking your ego and operating with a high degree of humility.
Admitting mistakes, taking ownership, and developing a plan to overcome challenges are integral to any successful team.
To subordinate your ego, you must have incredible confidence.
If you find you cannot put your ego in check because you're afraid it might make you look weak, then guess what: you ARE weak.
Ego clouds and disrupts everything: the planning process, the ability to take good advice, and the ability to accept constructive criticism.
Put your ego in check.
When your ego gets in the way, you are only hurting yourself.
Even when you get what you want, you are depleting leadership capital...
Until eventually you have none, and nobody wants you to win.
Setting the example is the most powerful thing you can do.
It's the actions you take, not the words you say.
When you set an example and someone follows it, that's leadership.