I don’t judge other women because there’s honestly no point.🤷🏽♀️ We’ve all been in love. We’ve all had our heart broken . We’ve all stayed with someone longer than we should have. We’ve all been stupId for someone. We’ve all settled before. We’ve all been naive. And we’ve all made some mistakes over and over and over again. Ain’t no woman better than the next. Some just learned from their mistakes faster than others.
My grandmother said, “A woman shouldn't be too independent because men don't like feeling unnecessary.” I asked her, “Why should a woman make herself smaller just to make a man feel bigger?” She said, “Because relationships require compromise.” I said, “Compromise is meeting halfway. Giving up your independence so someone else feels powerful isn't compromise.” My father then said, “But every man wants to feel needed.” I looked at him and said, “Then be the kind of man someone chooses even when she doesn't need you.” Nobody said anything after that. And honestly, I think that's the kind of standard more people should have.
Whatever you do, pray for the ability to see your own sins, your own hypocrisy, and your own shortcomings. Never lose sight of that— never get so carried away pointing fingers that you forget you, too, have abscesses that need tending.
I honestly want to marry into a family that genuinely loves me. I want it to happen. I don't want a situation where I have issues with my in-laws. I want them to take me as their own. Marrying into a loving family is a top priority. 🙏