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[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

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[Elelu Ayoola @EleluAyoola]

I don’t usually put mouth in online matters, but this particular issue involving Femi Adebayo’s wife is deeply sad.

One hard truth life keeps teaching us is this: words are irreversible. Once they leave your mouth, they can’t be unsaid, no matter how sincere the apology later becomes.

Anger happens. Pain happens. Feeling betrayed, unheard, or overwhelmed happens. But when emotions are high, wisdom must be higher. There are reasons professional marriage counsellors exist. Not every pain deserves a public audience, and not every grievance should be poured into the ears of a third party who cannot carry it responsibly.

Some things, once said, permanently alter the emotional safety of a marriage. You may forgive, but you can’t unknow what you now know. You may reconcile, but the innocence is gone.

Marriage is not sustained by love alone; it survives on restraint, discretion, and forgiveness. You will hurt your spouse. Your spouse will hurt you. That is unavoidable. What determines whether the marriage lives or dies is how those hurts are handled.

When you’re angry, don’t let hatred borrow your tongue. Don’t say things just to wound. Don’t speak from a place you can’t return from.

Sometimes, silence is not weakness—it’s protection. Sometimes, walking into a counsellor’s office is wiser than opening your mouth in the heat of pain.

Women especially, we must learn this: if you desire peace in your marriage, you must also desire discipline over your words.

Forgiveness keeps marriages standing, but wisdom keeps them whole.

PS:
If Allah wills that they come back stronger, it will happen. Nothing overrides His decree.

But let this be a lesson to us all: speaking about your marriage to a third party rarely ends well. What is said in pain can cause damage that’s hard to undo.

Protect your marriage with wisdom. Seek help where healing lives, not where opinions multiply.

Latifat Shamseddin-Giwa

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@EleluAyoola Well articulated post. I am not concerned about the veracity of the background facts but only the words on marble

[Nana_Hauwa💞💕 @Nana_hauwa_]

Your repost will go a long way.🙏🙏🙏

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@cacnigeria1 Thanks for your response. Please it needs to be very soon because it is frustrating and delaying commencement of business

[Lammie_Art @Lammie_Art01]

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[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@AjeboDanny My general principle is simple, lend out only an amount you can conveniently let go off (i.e. small amounts). Also note that most people asking you for loans usually have alternatives sources for that fund

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@phveektordrayne How will *it make you feel*?

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@phveektordrayne Different strokes for different folks. I know couples in such circumstances and have been in marriage for a while. But remember, her landmark birthday Anniversary celebration will always remind u and others (including your kids) of this age gap. How will I feel?

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@emmaikumeh Is this suppose to encourage or discourage CNG introduction in Nigeria? Because planes crash, does that mean no one should take planes again? Just wondering as per this post

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@chude__ Nigerians don't seem to have suffered enough. We still have the grace to keep adjusting to/tolerating rubbish. Venezuela has over suffered and and things gotten to the 'enough' stage so they have pushed back

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@nifemioluboyede Bro, see that neck.. heheh God has been good O

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@iamolowoS Ok. Animal farming (e g. Goats) (but depends on where the person is located or has space). Also the person can buy and resell palm oil or other oil palm products. I am looking to invest in agro maybe later this year. But 4now, my focus is investment in solar

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@iamolowoS correction: ... you are* looking at

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@iamolowoS Quite a number of small businesses but it all depends on how much margin I are looking at and the turn over. E.g purchase and sale of groceries, little home appliances, maybe dispatch, sale of thrift items, etc. Are you looking at investing?

[Sweet girl @This_is_Shola]

Tuned in to the 1st and 2nd service yesterday in order to drive the message home and hearing this again this morning still feels fresh ❤️

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@Vickings0 @ONsogbu @kunmydrey @ARISEtv Very biased interview by the TV host. Why can't he just get the fact that EVERYONE (including businesses and Erisco) also have rights and can take legal steps to protect it too

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@eniolaDS @ONsogbu @kunmydrey I blame this generation. They forget that ACTIONS HAVE CONSEQUENCES. If they think of that, they would make more factual and evidence based posts. Brand reputation is everything for most businesses. I will not let you kill my business just because you bear the tag 'customer'

[Chizhim @Ee_cee4]

@Nnanyelugo13 @ONsogbu @kunmydrey It's convenient to say this until you are a business/product owner. For most businesses, reputation is key. 'Customer is not truly always right'. A malicious or even ignorant customer can kill your business and cause job losses to many. Is that okay?