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Actual murloc. library/dnd. icon: my own face. black lives matter. fuck terfs.

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@Derek_Lieu I definitely do this, particularly because I want photos of the game play and partially because a lot of trailers are overwhelmingly flashy, loud and chaotic which is not for me

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

How To Heal From Emotionally Immature Parents:

In homes with emotionally immature parents (EIP) we learn to walk on eggshells.

Emotionally immature parents struggle to cope with their emotions and often lash out, give silent treatment, remove their love, or shame their children often unintentionally.

Growing up in this environment, we learn we are not safe to fully be ourselves.

This creates emotional hypervigilance.

Emotional hypervigilance is a survival adaptation where we constantly scan our environment to see shifts or changes in people's mood, facial expression, or tone.

Emotional hypervigilance looks like:

- constantly asking “are you ok?” without accepting the answer

- chronic fear of upsetting or disappointing someone

- micromanaging adults behavior: telling people what they 'should' be doing even when they're not receptive

- playing peacemaker or mediator in family members conflict even when it doesn’t involve you

- replaying conversations over and over again to see if you said something 'wrong'

We're attempting to protect ourselves, but as adults emotional hypervigilance can really impact our relationships and can be source of intense anxiety.

How To Heal From Emotional Hypervigilance:

1. Understand you're no longer in childhood: in childhood, this kept you safe. As an adult you have options to protect yourself, remove yourself from harmful situations, and set clear boundaries.

2. Let go of the "fixer" role: people who are hypervigilant often believe their role is to fix the problems of adults. Often because they played a therapist role to a parent from a young age. We are not responsible for fixing anyone else's issues expect our own.

3. I trust people's words: if someone tells me everything is fine, I honor their word. I don't keep picking or looking to see if something is wrong. I don't make assumptions, instead I ask for clarity.

4. I allow people to be in their own mood: it's ok for people to be in a mood or emotional state that's different from me. I don't need to fix this or change their mood.

5. I can clearly communicate my needs: as adults, if we have a need, we need to communicate that need. We can't expect people close to us to mind read or 'just know' what we want.

6. I can disappoint people: disappointing an emotionally immature parent can result in the silent treatment, shaming, rejection, or harsh punishment. As adults, we can learn that disappointing people is simply part of life and that healthy adults can cope with disappointment.

If this is helpful, bookmark for later, and retweet. Sharing is caring.

It will take practice to re-wire your mind and body to feel safe. Trust the process.

I'd love feedback on if you prefer this long format mode or threads in the comments.

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@ask_aubry “How do I tell her?” WITH WORDS. Tell her now.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Your parents might not understand your choices as an adult, and that’s ok. Your role isn’t to sell your parents on the life you live. Your role is to actually create a life that brings you fulfillment. Maturity is knowing not everyone will approve.

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@JoCat105 Everything by LadyKnighttheBrave is awesome, but this video essay on the Last of Us games it’s phenomenal and a great introduction to their content:

https://t.co/lGp8R3SuRO

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@karrah_e Game changer

[Many A True Nerd @ManyATrueNerd]

To be absolutely clear, I am not touching the Wizard Game.

I will not be using whatever influence I have to directly or indirectly send attention, validation or money to one of the richest, most powerful anti-LGBT voices in the world. Being an LGBT ally is more important to me.

[gender of the day @genderoftheday]

Today's gender is the smell of lavender.

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@LuizaBondila @HoneyBlaqk @iconawrites Nope, you might be thinking about college study libraries or research libraries but no community or public library is “supposed” to be like that, as a library worker, i can tell you that your view on this is inaccurate. Maybe based on weird old movies or something

[Ted @CaptainCanady]

@Dzikisms @JennyENicholson Because whales are cooler than plot. People don't buy tickets for plot, they buy tickets to see the space whales do cool shit.

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@jfkantrowitz Tangerine on your screen?

[gender of the day @genderoftheday]

The gender of the day is a foreboding asteroid.

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

😂

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@CDMLarsson Right? They sometimes look like they char them to a crisp and lose most of the meat

[Emily Nussbaum @emilynussbaum]

Normalize liking your spouse

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@mattibee_arts How is this not a bulbasaur landslide!? My little plant dinosaur puppy boy is losing? Insanity

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@mattibee_arts

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@DmMoax will create the best arc in her stories rather than what is actually transpiring. She defines people as tragic heroes or villains in need of redemption. When the “narrative” isn’t going to plan she uses her craft and magic to edit the world as it will make for a a better tale. /5

[ELM @Elm_TRE3]

@DmMoax Fantastical fairytales, all secretly true and based on the adventures of her companions.
Gretka is a bard, that does not use instruments, but pen and paper, pushing forward moments that will transpose into take the best, frequently absorbed in what she imagines (4/?)