In Memory of Fern Foster

Just a 22-year old girl, documenting my encounters with systems that don’t understand autism! Neurodiversity isn’t an illness, it’s a different way of thinking.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

Extremely tired today - We are happy with the Coronors conclusion. Here is the press release from our lawyers.
https://t.co/NKZxZ5n9u7

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

Remembering Fern today on what would have been her 28th Birthday.
Who knows who you would have become. The world lost a true gift when you went.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

In memory of Fern Foster who took her own life 5 years ago today after she was told her baby daughter was going to be adopted.
Fern loved this song, especially the lyric about 'pushing an elephant up the stairs'.

You are missed ❤️

The Great Beyond https://t.co/vvdUB3t7rW

[Support not Separation @NotSeparation]

We’re outside the Old Bailey right now as mothers supporting Constance Marten because many of us have experienced the brutality of #familycourt stealing our children. We’re saying Hands Off Our Children! Children need their mothers. @evansma @SummerBG @hansummers

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

@SCBierton @BBC3CR Read the inquest. Ambulances do not carry the antidote. There are also issues with response times with fatal poisonings. Lots of people dying this way, which is why Coronors are raising awareness. Actions of Oxford Health & LA also part of the story.

[BBC Beds, Herts & Bucks @BBC3CR]

Coroner asks ambulance service to carry antidote https://t.co/3KUiuPR240

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

#GOPINKFORFERN

Thank you everyone for your support.
Love Dom and Rowan

Let's get change 😊

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

So on the last day of Fern's inquest next week (day tbc) we are inviting people to 'GO PINK FOR FERN'. Wear pink, post something pink to spread awareness of autism in girls and women.
Fern wanted to dye her hair pink b4 she died but was worried about being judged.

[Dr Jay Watts @Shrink_at_Large]

"I've also had the experience of the crisis team both without a recorded PD diagnosis on my notes and with one. It's night and day. Why do we give already vulnerable people labels that basically flag them up as targets for more abuse and trauma?"- Fern Foster

💜 and 🕯️for day 2.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

https://t.co/MfLEurdsOj

The first piece of media coverage. Please feel free to comment and interact on the article - if we show them that people are interested I suspect they are likely to cover it more

[GeorgeJulian @GeorgeJulian]

Fern Foster's @ElyssaLeopard's inquest starts tomorrow. She was 22 when she died in July 2020. Her family hope her inquest will explore involvement of professionals in Fern’s life and child protection processes https://t.co/eNi7bjAmxB

t/w death self-harm
#WorldAutismAwarenessDay

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

We are thankful to GeorgeJulian for the thoughtful profile they have written, and to everyone else talking about Fern. Here is a little message from us: please amplify and share Fern's story.

We value Fern's online community, as she did. 🕊️

- ❤️ Rowan and Dominique x

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

Second half

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

Ready for the Inquest
3rd April to 18th April
Beaconsfield Coroners Court
Unfortunately I have had to post in two parts.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

@paulaannev @mhpostss Yes it is. Plus a baby!
elyssa/Fern followed aspiez/Zoe and her death really affected her.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

@KieranRose7 Could we do an 'awareness part 2' highlighting the difficulty actually getting a diagnosis, and the constant fight to get any support, schools, LA, Mh. Let alone the void when reaching 18 and suicide rates. We need more than just awareness, we need change!

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

@Kaija_Rayne I can see that.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

@trewvs I was told "I hear you are struggling to understand your (PD) diagnosis". Nope, I understood it completely.
I had read the diagnostic criteria in the DSM, researched it extensively and compared it to my symptoms. I just disagreed with it.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

@spinnymandela @RowanFoster10 They didn’t understand autism in a well masking, intelligent female. Requests for reasonable adjustments and advocacy were ignored. They thought she was purely mental ill and unwilling to admit it.

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

Fern took her own life on 8th July last year following a complete lack of mental health support and what can only be described as bullying from social services.
Fern left behind a six month old baby girl.

Her sister, now posts. Follow her on @RowanFoster10

[In Memory of Fern Foster @ElyssaLeopard]

@spinnymandela @RowanFoster10 A combination of lack of support from mental health and persecution by social services. Utter ignorance about autism.