(I'M LEAVING OFF BLACK- AND WHITE-DRACONIC BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO INADVERTANTLY GIVE AMMO TO PEOPLE WHO WOULD CLAIM WE'RE SAYING WE'RE DEMI-RACIAL. AS "WHITE" AND "BLACK" ARE USED TO IDENTIFY HUMANS.)
(It's never "explain it to me because I want to learn about people who aren't like me", it's "explain it until I am satisfied with your explanation, and will treat you as your self-identified gender."
Which is a rigged game based on constantly moving goalposts.)
Many trans and non-binary people are familiar with some folks' expectations that the cisn't person "owes" cis people, especially cis strangers, full explanations of their gender(s).
It's a super-hostile thing to do.
Nobody owes anyone else an explanation like that.
Whenever some BLERF thinks they've got a "WOAH THIS ONE SIMPLE QUESTION DEMOLISHES ANY MSPEC LESBIAN SUPPORTER" scenario by asking you, in imitation of TERFs, "define lesbian?"
You can ask them the same thing too, and then -- invariably, because they're like call-center CSRs who
(People will identify as "boy" or "girl" instead of "man" or "woman" for their own reasons, and nobody owes you an explanation of why.
Treating a self-identified "demi-boy" as if they're ... a binary man ... IS REALLY FUCKED UP. PLEASE DON'T DO OR IMPLY THAT.
@xyrnala@Friska_Rexie@IsabellaScar2@hannibalismybbg@nullisgay @granitesys What's a woman and what's a non-binary person and what's a butch?
Who determines if someone is a woman, non-binary, or butch?
Spoiler: It's based on any given person's good-faith self-identification.