@Teetoh10 You are literally proving her point. You cook everyday because you are a wife and a mother. Your family has to eat!
Single people don't need to cook everyday because we aren't obliged to cater to no one.
@naetochukwu01 I keep coming back to this triggering tweet.
As chaotic as adulthood can be, sometimes, I'll choose it a thousand times over my childhood, teens, and early twenties. One day, I'll go to therapy
Elders say that when a man loses his footing, the ground shakes for everyone around him. Everything I will be saying here is the wisdom I got from my father.
Let me tell you one hard truth. Your husband is not fighting you; he is fighting his own shame. You said he took over a successful family business and brought it to ruin right? While you thrive? That is a huge confidence breaker.
His demand to take over your business is not about the children needing attention. It is a desperate attempt to feel like a leader and a provider again. No let anyone whine you.
And here you are. You do not want to lose your business and you do not want to lose your marriage. But there is a way our mothers handled it. A lot of our grandmothers were very wealthy market women, sometimes richer than their husbands.
But they understood that a man's ego will never allow him to sit at home and watch his wife feed him everyday. If you fight him head on over ownership, he will become toxic and he will find faults in everything you do just to prove he is the head of the house. Don’t go that route.
Instead, our mothers survived this by practicing invisible leadership. They gave the man influence without handing over the treasury.
Firstly, do not fight him face to face. Bring in that one uncle or elder he respects deeply. Let the elder soften the ground and make him see that taking your shop will not rebuild his father's company.
After the elder has spoken, sit him down and make him the chairman of your business. Let him handle the big suppliers, the landlords, or the government people. Give him a title that commands respect when he steps outside. But keep the bank tokens and the daily market operations in your own hands.
You also have to feed his need to lead. Consult him on things you already have the answers to. Ask him if you should buy ten cartons or fifteen, even when you know you are buying fifteen. It makes him feel in charge of the family vision.
Then, if the business is making good profit, free up some capital for him. Tell him you want him to use his experience to start a new branch or a completely different venture. Give him his own project to build.
When a man has his own vision to chase, he will stop fighting you for yours. That is how you keep your home peaceful and protect the sweat of your hands.
Allah knows best.
These are the calibre of men women were arguing with over their reproductive rights with the other day.
His clothes can fit his pregnant wife, yet she's the butt of his jokes
It's 2026, and you losers still think marriage is some kind of reward for women. That's why the moment you see women having fun, your first thought is who's going to marry them. Fools
I know a guy with a lot of history. He's had multiple exes, is known for casuals/fwb/ONS. He suddenly met a girl, in two months he introduced her to his family and started proposing marriage. That girl is a one man for life type of girl. He was having casuals even
Man Insists Wife Must Deliver At Home, Locks Her Up As She Bled To Death 😡
A man identified as Mr. Samuel Chidi, a graduate of Law from Ebonyi State University, Abakilikk, has been accused of ‘deliberate criminal negligence’ towards his wife, Igbere TV reports.
According to a social media user who shared the story with Igbere TV, Chidi, a resident of Diamond Point Junction, Chinedu Ogah Avenue, Abakaliki, had watched his wife who had previously delivered twice though caesarean section, battle with labour pains in their room and bled to death.
“Chidi could have easily contacted a Nurse who was also living in the same compound but instead left the poor woman locked up in the room with a patent medicine dealer who, to make matters worse, administered improper injections, dragged out the baby to the ground while the husband pinned her legs down, collected the blood, the baby's placenta and hid in his room while leaving the agonizing mother to bleed till death," our source alleged.
It was gathered that the incident occurred around 11pm, and Chidi did not inform anyone in the compound or any member of the deceased family until the afternoon of the following day when a neighbour, a Nurse who came to check on Mrs. Nkechi, the late woman, learnt of the incident.
“She insisted that her corpse be deposited immediately at the morgue for proper attention while the lucky newborn baby be moved into intensive care,” the source said.
Igbere TV gathered that the family of the deceased was contacted soon after and dismayed by the negligent conduct of the man who had sworn to love, cherish and protect their daughter till death do them part, withdrew the body and proceeded to dump it in the man’s compound “for him to do with it as he had presumably purposed.”
“But for the quick intervention of members of the Nigeria Police from Kpirikpiri Station, who were on Patrol duty, got wind of the incident and prevailed on the situation.”
Igbere TV learnt that the corpse was returned to the Federal Teaching Hospital, Abakaliki mortuary while the suspect was placed under police custody pending investigation and trial.
“The circumstances surrounding the death of Mrs. Nkechi remain largely a mystery to her neighbours and family, and the general public is hopeful that the Justice Department of the State will leave no stone unturned in their attempt to unravel it and bring those culpable to book,” a family source told Igbere Tuesday night. 🥹🥹🥹
President of Botswana 🇧🇼 Duma Boko stunned the audience after stopping midway through his speech to deliver a brutal but powerful lecture on relationships, loyalty, and trust.