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@JohnRoggan Yeah, I think the ability to manage our own emotions is the key driver behind all our success. It's what makes us stop procrastinating or messing up and get things done!

[John Roggan @JohnRoggan]

I wish I had known this trick to control my urges years ago…

We open Instagram thinking we’ll just check one notification - then stay for 45 min

We buy a bag of sweets thinking we’ll have one after dinner - then eat all in one sitting

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan Haha, hard to choose!
I would say humble bragging, because the person actually thinks they are smarter than others. They think they can smoothly hide their bragging without others noticing.
Even more pathetic than just trying to one-up others.

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan Although the second camp sounds harsh, I have to say I'm in it.
The number of times I thought I was angry but I was actually just hungry...
Emotions are not always true.

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan Yeah, our minds constantly just assume. We assume others did something on purpose, etc. They want to predict what might happen and be prepared. But they make us act like idiots instead.

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan I'm guilty of both...

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan My personal "impossibility" was that I didn't like greens - now I eat healthy every day! I just kept going until my mindset had shifted

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan As a former people-pleaser, it used to be 2
But I'm making progress towards 1!

[John Roggan @JohnRoggan]

I wanted to win every argument and always convince people of why they were wrong
…until I realized what that got me:

Instead of happily going my way, I spent my time arguing with people whom I anyways couldn’t convince

I cared more about being right than about being at peace

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan All is worthless without health.
And family and friends are what makes live enjoyable.
But de facto many today value their careers higher than the people in their lives (just by sheer amount of energy and time they put into it).
Freedom is overrated. We actually want stability.

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan White lies are good. Don't know why people think they are bad. Radical honesty is an interesting concept, but doesn't work in reality. We all have our insecurities and are hard enough on ourselves. Being bombarded with others' judgement on top is so not needed

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan It's definitely a thing. But why?
If you're upset, you want your partner to also be upset? So you can have a fight and blow off steam? So you get them from 0 to 60 by pushing their buttons?

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan 3.
Judgemental people are the worst
Why do they assume others care what they think?
I guess they do it for themselves
They try to tell themselves that others are doing badly so they feel they do good in comparison
Or they are so self-centered that they think others care to hear

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan Very true! If we don't learn better ways to handle our emotions, we just pass on our bad coping mechanisms onto our children. Someone needs to break the cycle

[EQ Fanatic @EQ_Fanatic]

@JohnRoggan Understanding that your past (aka your parents) are to blame for your struggles feels like an epiphany
...but it changes nothing!

To change, we need to put in the work, not blame others (and hope they do it for us???)
Getting that was actually relieving - I have it in my hands!

[John Roggan @JohnRoggan]

Me at 18 years:
"I need to get good at speaking foreign languages and coding and Excel and..."

Me at 34 years:
"In the end, I really need to get good at this: Managing emotions"

The most important skill in life is emotional intelligence

If you're the boss in your own mind and can read and influence others' emotions, you will
- become more successful in your career
- have happier relationships and friendships
- develop healthier habits
etc.

Let's make working on your EQ sexy - and this world a kinder place!

[John Roggan @JohnRoggan]

No one expects to be physically strong without at least some form of exercise💪
So why do we expect to be mentally strong without it?🧠

Being able to stay on top of our emotions, aka our emotional fitness, needs to be trained too!

Luckily we don’t have to drag our butts into the gym to improve our self-control

We just need to open our phones and (instead of scrolling on social media) open one of these apps:
- Headspace to learn meditation
- Reflectly to practise gratitude
- Ahead to notice and manage emotions

Our smartphones are finally starting to be good for our mental health

Which emotional fitness apps do you like?