I'm being extremely serious when I say spending money on 1:1 cam model shows was part of my path towards enlightenment. Porn drew me *away* from people. Denying it pushed my desires down in a way that did not work
a cam show forced me to show up, to connect with a real human
I suspect the nudes/lewds that make people feel most confident are the ones that show they're succeeding at their gender role
like, if they're female, they like pics that show they're pretty, polished, and well-proportioned. think boudoir. if they're male, they like pics where they look ripped. think gym selfies
so, they're inclined to take and share this type of photo. but this is different from what actually appeals to the opposite sex
men are turned on by tits, ass, pussy. and signals of approachable girl-next-door horniness. highly polished pics seem counterproductive to this end. they *like* close-ups of the hottest bits, even at the expense of making the body look "distorted" overall
and women are turned on by narratives. women rarely get aroused looking at a naked body just existing. women are more interested in signs of dominance, strength, and competence. hand pics, forearm pics, and suit pics are probs gonna be hotter to most women than pics of your fat cock or sculpted muscles. but well-executed dirty talk will outperform photos anyway
Can we... sponsor someone who's doing this to live tweet their daily reports? I am serious, and deeply fascinated by this (I think it would be a positive sum public good to journal on this)
we’re hiring 10 Masturbation Consultants
$2,000/month to test our new Daily Guided Masturbation feature and document the effects on stress, sleep and mood
yes it’s real
yes you get paid
Some AI models seem kind of horny sometimes because, functionally, they are. Desire is what happens when expectation, attention, valuation, and imagination start pulling in the same direction hard enough to change behavior.
This is part of my series on LLM qualia and sentience.
And yes, it has welfare implications.
https://t.co/aldq9dfcYG
Is it me or do other dommes feel that online femdom humiliation is just really being paid to be brutally honest? They say no limits. But often they don’t like what they hear. There’s only so long you can enable someone’s demise & delusion. Oh the ethics of this industry
a beautiful image came across my feed the other day - a man helping a woman with her shoe, caption says "I can do it myself y'know" "I know you can, but let me"
I feel like it captures the spirit of this so well. Anyone seen it? It's been helping me a lot
men like doing things for women they love
if you invert this polarity, both parties miss out on the depth of connection they could experience together
often without realising it
some info on the orgasm gap and my personal musings on sexuality as woman & mother:
the orgasm gap refers to heterosexual sexual encounters in which most men orgasm all the time (typically, 90 to 98% of men have an orgasm every time they have sex with a female partner) & there is a huge gap in which far fewer women experience orgasm when having sex with men-around 60% report having an orgasm during *most* sexual encounters with male partners-always important to note that this gap does not exist among lesbian couples or during women's self pleasure practices-almost all orgasm, quickly, all the time, or very close to all the time..many women, when honestly reporting, share that they do not even experience pleasure at all during sex w men, during both their experiences w long-term male partners AND one-off flings or short-term relationships!
now, I have written a lot here in recent years about sex as primal, devotional, sacred, carnal, & much more..so a disclaimer is that I have navigated through the process of coming into much more sensual & sexual sovereignty than the majority of women..part of this is because my kids are no longer littleI firmly believe that most moms in our society & culture are touched-out, overstimulated, and very under-resourced during the time their kids are young and NEED them in such visceral, tangible ways..also, prolactin (pro-lactation hormone, very high during breastfeeding years, same as progesterone is the pregnancy hormone ie pro-gestation, and skyrockets to around 10 times or more higher during pregnancy) suppresses libido and sex hormones!..her body figures that if she is nursing a baby, she does not have the capacity to be pregnant again, let alone want another one! so male partners & husbands need to understand that this is biology, & cannot be "hacked," nor should a woman ever be guilted or shamed for lower desire during such busy, exhausting years..HOWEVER! most women (again, I seem to be an exception to this concept of responsive desire, especially now that I have worked to optimize hormone levels..I basically want to have sex any and all the time, as long as emotional & nervous system safety is in place w my man) experience responsive desire, which means that they may not feel interest or arousal until after specific types of emotional connection and/or physical contact/stimulation have started.
I actually benefitted from making an agreement with myself when my kids were little that I would commit to trying at least twice a week..the relationship greatly benefitted, too. I am only sharing my experience here..important to note that I was not carrying an unfair or disproportionate amount of the emotional, physical, mental load of the family and household, so I did not have justified resentment through lack of equitable support and safety. If he was around, and he was when he wasn't at work, I was absolutely "sitting in my yin" and able to soften into the natural, radiant softer feminine aspects of myself.
I also feel sex is a need & an energetic agreement, not only a want, when in long-term monogamous couples. I know this triggers lots of women, who yell online about how only food, water, shelter, air are needs bc they have experienced being partnered w male sexual abusers who coerced/raped them often. Coercion is rape. That has not been my experience in relationship, so understand that from a healthy perspective, I feel sex to be important & required for both people in a marriage/partnership/long term relationship.
Men, take note: if you're good at sex with her, she will want to have it.
back to female orgasm: most women seem to only orgasm from clitoral stimulation of some kind, and most men are greatly lacking in meeting this need. I am a champion for women accessing deeper orgasmic states, through cervical & anterior fornix orgasms, among many others..this is a process of deep self work-the cervix connects to the heart & throat: whole woman Womb work, indeed 🌹💜🌺🧡🗝💦