P. Etiese

Lawyer || Advocate for Women's Rights and Social Justice || Volunteer, JBH.
I believe in the equal worth of every human being.

[P. Etiese @EtieseP]

I just published a paper on an interesting area of Nigerian Criminal Law see here 👉🏼 https://t.co/0fpD3n2Bkn

[P. Etiese @EtieseP]

@muheediva01 Please cut to the chase

[NRB @vivrantny]

So glad I learned how to turn this off. Spiritually its a form of mental bondage. Lot's wife turned into a pillar of salt for this and that's what you are when you become a slave to nostalgia. Renew your mind daily. All you ever have is the present. Be where your feet are.

[Ifeanyi @c_naturalman]

I have lived in the UK long enough to notice one thing that breaks my heart about Nigeria.

In Britain, an 80 year old woman knows exactly what her pension will be next month.

She plans her shopping around it. Books her holidays around it. Lives her dignity around it.

In Nigeria, an 80 year old man who served this country for 35 years is begging his children for feeding money.

And we call Britain a cold, individualistic society.

At least their old people are not dying of hunger in their children's parlours, too proud to ask for water.

We pride ourselves as "family-oriented" culture. But we have normalised leaving our elderly to rot while the government that took their best years lives in Abuja eating their future.

A society that cannot protect its old people has no business calling itself civilised.

[P. Etiese @EtieseP]

@HeartMattaz Is she the first and only person to post her delivery journey?

Many women have actually learned more about pregnancy and prepared themselves for the journey just because women like Veekee have openly shared their experience. How is that even a problem? Why so bitter?

[Wilberforce humanity @wilber_humanity]

@awkwardgoogle So, that ain't murder?

[Muna @Munalozy]

On what frank said, people really need to stop normalizing bad behavior with gender based excuses. Presenting male infidelity as normal while judging women for it is a clear double standard lol. It is toxic double standards being normalized as intelligence.

Adultery is adultery. Betrayal is betrayal. If loyalty matters in a relationship, then it should apply to both men and women equally. Men are not wired differently in a way that suddenly removes accountability or morality from their actions. A grown man should be responsible for his choices instead of hiding behind tired narratives that excuse infidelity.

And let’s be honest, many men completely lose their minds when they are cheated on because they cannot handle a taste of the same pain they casually expect women to endure silently. That alone exposes the double standard.

Women also have every right to leave a marriage or relationship on the grounds of adultery. Nobody is obligated to tolerate repeated disrespect because society keeps telling them 'that’s just how men are'. No, it is how some men choose to behave, and choices have consequences.

What even happened to the male morality? Is it that it's only women that should be morally upright? Why not do unto others what you want to be done to you? You know that cheating hurts when it's been done to you, why do it to your partner?

Y'all should be more careful with the ideas you push, especially to younger generations. We should be teaching young men discipline, integrity, emotional maturity, and accountability, not giving them excuses for selfish behavior. Everybody needs to do better tbh.

[Toyosi Stephen Adedara @TSAdedara]

Just so you know, this is not because the system is broken but because we never thought it was worth fixing.

I have a https://t.co/0nj6bkCGQL,Ed and a MEd from the Nigerian education system. I watched brilliant, committed people study curriculum theory, developmental psychology, pedagogy, and assessment for years, just to enter a profession that the same government treats like a fallback option for people who could not get in anywhere else. And now JAMB has formalized that disrespect.

Ask yourself one question: would we ever do this for Medicine and Surgery? Would we say, “you know what, anyone who wants to be a doctor does not need to pass UTME?” Of course not. Because people would die, and we would see it. Dead body go surplus ba? Yeah.

But here is the truth nobody wants to say out loud. The damage a poorly trained teacher does is just as lethal. It is only slower. It shows up twenty years later in citizens who cannot think critically, who are vulnerable to propaganda, who will collect N5,000 and vote against their own future, who will join a secret cult because nobody ever taught them their own dignity. You cannot separate the collapse of Nigerian civic life from the collapse of Nigerian teacher education. They are the same story.

Finland did not become Finland by accident. Denmark did not become Denmark by accident. The countries we admire for their infrastructure, their rule of law, their social trust, their cleanliness, their decency, built those things first in classrooms, with teachers who were selected from the top of their graduating cohorts and paid and respected accordingly. Teaching in Finland is as competitive as Medicine. That is not a coincidence.

Our leaders cannot see this because they are not building for a future they will not live to enjoy. They want to name senate buildings after themselves today like Mimiko did in Ondo State. They want to build stadiums and name it after themselves like Godswill Akpabio. Nobody gets a plaque for producing a generation of thoughtful citizens. Nobody cuts a ribbon for that. And so it does not get done.

Also, prioritizing petroleum engineers and tech gurus give them the ammunition they need to continuously take advantage of our natural resources and fintech opportunities to make millions. But for teachers who raise viable citizens? Nah! No instant reward.

This JAMB policy is not a mistake. It is a value statement. It tells you exactly what this system thinks of teachers, of education, of the human beings those teachers will spend their lives shaping. And until we are as outraged about that as we are about fuel prices or naira depreciation, we will keep producing the same country, and then wondering why nothing ever changes.

Everyone at @JAMBHQ should be ashamed of themselves.

[Precious Bernard(Benin Chef👩🏽‍🍳) @ptreatshaven]

“Entering age”
“the Nigerians”

See people wey mark my answer sheet☹️🙂‍↕️

[Mr Sergio @samson_samsen]

The unforgiving person is the closest thing to a “good person,” even more so than the forgiving or empathetic person.

A forgiving person is capable of forgiveness because he finds it easy to understand the behavior of those who offend him. This understanding is a function of possessing the capacity to act in a similar manner as those who offend him. He too is capable of hurting someone, and he knows it.

However, a man who is incapable of forgiving people is equally repelled by offending them. He has a rigid but consistent ethical stance: he will not hurt, and he will not forgive when he is hurt.

His lack of agency to be cruel to people mandates his lack of understanding for cruel character and thus makes him unforgiving of it. He will not forgive you for doing unto him what he cannot do to you.

Right there is a good person.

[Sarau’Niiyaa🦋☘️💫 @9_11_90s]

I know talk is cheap,
But if I come to you as a woman to fight because of a man,
Please beat the hell out of me🤲🏽

[Madam Na me de Haute @noircoco_]

No. You need trees. Anytime you feel the scorching heat, plant 5 trees close to you. By next year you'll feel the difference

[P. Etiese @EtieseP]

@adams_miide They were actually right. There's a type of pawpaw that actually turns yellow inside and outside when it's ripe. It has a sweet taste and is not bland like the one in this post.

[Empress Sal✨ @sal_empress]

What are the non feminist girlies saying?

I want to know their take

[Olori🍒 @OloriOfOloris]

If this isn’t stopped, it could get to a point where when they don't see women on the streets, they will invade homes to assault them!!!

[No filter Skin @NoFilterSkin]

Women's bodies be like "first we're gonna punish you for being old enough to have babies, then we're gonna punish you for every month you don't have a baby, then we're gonna punish you for nine months when you make a baby, then we're gonna punish you for feeding the baby, then we're gonna punish you for when you try to stop feeding the baby, then we're gonna punish you for being too old to have babies. and then you die."

[Tom’s @_toms947]

Les pays africains arrivent à réaliser l’exploit non pas de stagner mais de littéralement régresser. C’est du jamais vu.

[Ugochukwu Madu @UgochukwuCFR]

These are the little things that reflect culture and differentiate one culture from another. The way people cook, eat, and name their food differs from place to place.

In the UK, electrical switches turn ON upward and the driver’s seat is on the right side of the car. In the USA, it’s the opposite.

Europeans call it football, but in the USA, football means another kind of sport. If you ask me, that’s what makes a civilization unique.

We (Nigerians) copy too much and most times, it’s at the expense of our own culture.

Not everything has to follow Western definitions. Culture allows people to define things in their own way.

By the way, I strongly believe we should formally recognize “Nigerian English” so that our pronunciation, accent, and context-based meanings (definitions) become our own legitimate way of speaking, rather than being portrayed by us and by foreigners as a laughable version of English.

[Lukas Not Podolski @OtitoNosike]

I have realized that a lot of people are deeply uncomfortable with silence.

The other day I was seated with an elderly man, perhaps in his fifties, at a church function. We had just met and were waiting for others to join us, so there was no conversation to sustain, no familiarity to lean on. Just two people, side by side, in shared quiet.

But I noticed he kept twitching, shifting, searching for ways to initiate talk. There I was, uninterested, perfectly at ease in the stillness, yet it disturbed him greatly.

Eventually, he blurted out, almost anxiously, whether I had issues with speaking, because he felt he had been talking “to me” while my responses carried the unmistakable brevity of someone not interested in prolonging speech.

And it struck me that this is not limited to him. I have sat with many people who carry the same unease when everywhere is silent. It is as though they cannot function properly unless their mouths are moving, as though speech is proof of existence.

For someone like me, who prefers the clarity of silence over the emptiness of needless words, I have always found that trait rather strange.

Silence, since I have known it intimately, does not threaten. It reveals. And perhaps that is what unsettles many, that in silence, there is nothing to hide behind, nothing to perform with, nothing to distract from the naked confrontation with oneself.

[Kylie @KylieHopkinsX]

The cheat code nobody talks about: Being reliable. Answer emails quickly. Show up on time. Do what you said. Keep small promises. Remember details. In a world where everyone is flaky, reliability looks like genius. It's not talent.