Damien Bohler

I write about relationships, parenting & coaching | More 🔥 Less 😢 Secure Attachment & Polarity. Free guide:

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

Yet when a man doesn't know what he wants, especially if he is uncertain about her - it's agony.

When a man lacks certainty, she has take control to create the conditions for herself to feel safe... Which means her body will tighten and close to him, even if she wants him.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

Certainty in Men creates Relief in the Feminine.
When most women are with a man, they ache to let go to him.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

There is a desire in the feminine to relinquish control, to let go of needing to anticipate the future and to relax into deep non-linear time in sensual surrender to this moment.

A man in his certainty makes that possible for her.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

The most attractive quality is when someone is comfortable showing up as their full authentic self, in all it's weird and quirky beauty.

There is literally nothing else you can do or be that is more attractive than that.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

If you want the deepest parts of you to be met, loved and wanted...

You have to meet, love and want them first.

While an aware partner can help you meet those scary, wounded places with their loving presence...

You'll still have to heal them from the inside.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

I got 99 problems...
But regulating my nervous system solved like 97 of them.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

She's not actually too much.
She's just feminine.
Learn to love her for it...
... And reap the rewards.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

@heystephenai @SparkLoopHQ @ProductHunt @midjourney @NotionHQ @gumroad @OpenAI @beehiiv @canva I'm not sure yet. Haven't taken a solid look as still finishing website overhaul.

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@heystephenai @SparkLoopHQ @ProductHunt @midjourney @NotionHQ @gumroad @OpenAI @beehiiv @canva Ah yep got it.

I'm already a fair bit over 1k so the monthly running costs are quite a bit more haha.

My stack:
- Beehiiv
- Outseta
- Webflow
- Circle
- Zoom
- Vimeo
- Make
- ChatGPT

For now... AI video editing and SEO will be needed soon.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

@heystephenai @SparkLoopHQ @ProductHunt @midjourney @NotionHQ @gumroad @OpenAI @beehiiv @canva So you keep a list under 1000?

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

Commitment without the energy of delight is dry
No relationship can last long in the desert of seriousness
Devotion will not grow if we do not water it with ecstasy ⚡️🌹

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

This is true ANYWHERE anxiety shows up.

From relationship to money to health.

This slight perceptual and embodied adjustment can completely change our experience of the moment.

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

On the other side of anxiety is excitement

The feeling, in either form, shows us that we deeply care about the thing.

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[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

OR whether we stay in our centre in delighted anticipation (magnetism & trust = I deserve this & am looking forward to receiving it)

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

There are two possible solutions to a developmental mismatch:

- be really patient and gentle with the process
OR
- be intentional to only create relationships those at a similar stage (#evolvestandards)

[Damien Bohler @evolverelating]

Relationship conflict generally comes down to at least one of four issues:

1. A lack of relational skills
2. Mismatched values &/or desires
3. Attachment issues (anxious-avoidant dance)
4. Significant discrepancy in developmental stages

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4. Developmental mismatch

This is a hard one

If both partners aren't at similar developmental stages and growing at a similar pace, it will create recurring conflict.

The more developed partner will feel frustration, the less developed will feel defensive. Resentment ensues