Blame whoever you want. At some point you still have to look in the mirror, name the actual issue, and do something about it. There is no other way to go about it.
I like how delusional some clothing descriptions are. You read the tag and it’s like, “Hand wash only. Tumble dry on low.” Son, you’re a cotton T shirt. You’re going in the washing machine, and whatever happens in there is in God’s hands.