Umar Farid

Am an easygoing guy

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@a_ayodeji_ @AObilana Omoh, I dy with you. Make me sef go watch ball. We don try.

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@everytingseraph @shinaayo_Jude @TechnicalBben Check your DM. I just messaged you.

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@everytingseraph @shinaayo_Jude @TechnicalBben Do you have the 3 combo?

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@iAmHizaac @Lugard100 God abeg. See me thinking this issue if greenline is limited to s23u and below.

[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Before 2020, I was always leaving the house every day of the week to work.

Sometimes, I would return home at 8 or 9pm.

Once I enter the house, my wife would welcome me.

On the TV, she would be watching one movie or series.

Then she will change the channel to CNN or BBC for me and ask me to go shower and have dinner.

"This is what you stay at home all day to do. Watch Telemundo or Zee world. You stay at home all day doing nothing. I go out every day to earn money to provide you for you and these children. Lazy woman!"

She won't say anything to me.

She'll go to the kitchen and wait for me to shower before dishing out my food.

I would notice that her eyes were blurry.

In the morning, I would be off by latest 6:30 am.

One day, I came back home, and my wife said that she wanted to discuss with me.

"Sweetie, I am depressed. I want to go back to work. I feel like I am useless in this marriage and I am not contributing anything to it. Please, help me find a job"

I blasted her and told her that I got a job without her, and I used my qualifications to apply, and that she should do same.

My wife cried so much that night.

Then came covid 19...

My office had asked us to start working from home.

Monday to Friday, I was home working.

My kids were still going to school under strict covid rules.

I started studying my wife more.

This woman was not resting.

I figured that she was only watching those series or shows just to stay awake to welcome me back home.

She was busier than I was.

She showed me what it meant to have a wife who is a housewife.

One day, I could not take it anymore.

"Baby, you have been asking me to pay you monthly salary, I think you're right. I will be giving you the money"

Covid made me appreciate my lovely wife, more.

Despite dating her for 9 years, I still could not see that God had blessed me enormously.

Because I was carried away by my female colleagues that were age mates with me and working.

And I wanted my wife to "fit in".

I was wrong.

That was why in 2021, I came here to write that a housewife that is playing her role effectively and efficiently without bringing a dime is not a liability.

It took me years into marriage to realize this.

My lovely wife is a hard worker.

And I have seen and still seeing the results of her hardwork on our lovely children.

Our children are so smart and they're high flyers in their schools.

Not only that, they are well behaved and very respectful and contented with what they have.

All made possible because of my lovely wife.

As a man, if you have a wife like mine, please be kind and be patient with her.

Yes, she may not be bringing money, but that's not her primary role or responsibility.

Your Lovely wife is more valuable to you than the money that you hope to be getting from her.

Only if you will open your brain and mind to understand me.

End.

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@CharlesNwoyeka @Crystal_sundayy @Wizarab10 Omoh, I dy Abuja.

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@CharlesNwoyeka @Crystal_sundayy @Wizarab10 Where your office dy?

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@_Moeyor @whoiskenbruz @OpeFoodCritic You in Abuja?. I want to try this out.

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

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[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

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[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

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[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@only1edringo @jon_d_doe Nawa oooooo. Which kind talk be this?

[Successor😎 @Successor_0]

The funny thing about learning Web3 is that there is too much information… but you can still feel lost.🧵

You can watch ten videos.

Read twenty threads.

Join different communities.

Follow hundreds of people.

And somehow still not know where to begin.

That was one of the most frustrating parts for me.

Not because information was hard to find.

There was actually too much of it.

Everybody was telling you what to do, but nobody was telling you what to understand first.

Sometimes you do not need more information.

You just need things to make sense in the right order.

[Successor😎 @Successor_0]

Nobody really talks about how confusing Web3 feels when you are new.🧵🪡

When I first came into Web3, I honestly did not understand a lot of things.

People were using words I had never heard before. Everyone seemed to know what they were doing, and I was just trying to understand where to even start.

The funny part is that nobody wants to look confused.

So you keep reading, watching, joining spaces, and pretending you understand everything.

Looking back now, I realize that being confused at the beginning was normal.

I just wish someone had explained things in a simple way from the start.

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@ChuksEmma947401 Interested

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@grey_network_ct Common guys, let's go.

[Dr Joe Abah, OON @DrJoeAbah]

Thank you, my brother, @jon_d_doe. I don’t curse anybody o. No need at all. What I find amusing is supposedly intelligent people acting like “this generation” (whatever age range that refers to) is the first generation in the history of the world and would be the last.

What many don’t realise is that the generation after them is already going back to more traditional values: going to a physical library to read a physical book, staying home more often, respect for each other and for elders (not forming “savage”), going to church/ mosque instead of thinking that claiming to be anti-religious makes them sound smart, etc.

We will continue to put our views out. As someone said, we grasp information based on the stage of development we are at. It may take some 20-30 years to fully grasp some simple concepts.

Finally, many are damaged but are not smart enough to realise that they are damaged precisely because of a misguided understanding of human relations.😂

[Umar Farid @Faridu32]

@grey_network_ct Nice one

[Unwana James 👨🏽‍💻🇺🇲 @UnwanaJames5]

@Stake That luck may find me 😂🔥⚽

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[Àgbà John Doe @jon_d_doe]

Dear young men,

Especially those of you between the ages of 27-33 and are still single.

This is how you know that you may have found your wife:

1. She's highly interested in what you do legitimately for a living, actively trying to encourage you to build your career or business, and always looking out for other opportunities for you.

2. If you live alone, she takes initiatives without being told by observing your home and trying to buy things she knows you need to live a better life in preparation for marriage.

3. She will hardly ask you for money, not because she doesn't need it, but because it's easy for her to get money from other men. And she knows that taking money from other men is an "invitation to treat", and can destroy her relationship with you. And she wouldn't want to make you feel that she's with you for your money, too.

4. When you give her money to do certain things, either for you or for her, she'll try to give you an account of how she spent the money.

5. She keeps boundaries with your friends and doesn't try to compare you with them. Rather, she would look out for that friend whom she observes has your best interests at heart, and encourage you to stay close to him.

6. She will not use sex as a weapon in the relationship, neither would she use it as a bargaining chip.

7. She actively gives you updates on how her day went, and she doesn't come to your house with her phone on silent mode or airplane mode.

8. She will try to abide by how you like her to dress, and she'll listen to you when you caution her about certain behavior that you do not like.

9. She'll actively want you to know her siblings and show interest in and respect for your siblings as well.

10. She'll not hold back if you ask her to lend you money, if she has it. But you, the man, must keep to your words when paying her back.

11. She'll bend many rules for you, but you should not take undue advantage of it.

12. She'll stress you sometimes, and test you in as many ways as possible. She's doing all that to see how well you can lead her, and how well you can control your emotions or anger.

13. She'll make mistakes. But you should use it as a teaching moment for her. If you don't judge her too harshly, she'll start to listen to you more. When you make a woman trust you with her vulnerability, she'll overlook some of your excesses.

14. She'll actively seek your validation and yours alone; whatever you say is good for her, she will accept it. And she won't care what the world says or feels about her.

15. She will not force you to be religious, but she will actively observe whether you respect God, because a man without God may not be a good leader.

If you have a lady that can do at least 10 out of the 15, you may have found your wife.

And remember, when you choose your wife, you have chosen your destiny.

End.