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[sophyarh @FineSoph]

Alhamdullilah for the gift of Now

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

Alhamdullilah for the gift of Now

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

Alhamdullilah for everything

[Daddy Yas!!! @Abu_Yaaseer]

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[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@ibnjaafar1205 Walaikum Salam wa rahmatullah wa barakatuhu

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

It’s the blessings of the past years for me. I’m truly BLESSED and HIGHLY FAVOURED. I feel really FULL, INUMIDUN, AYOMIKUN. I’m at peace , I’m centred, I’m grounded, my mind is elevated and God is within me.

Happy birthday to me

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@The_busarhz ate 16 pieces of Akara at a go while frying now she’s bastardising the toilet and lamenting to me
God what’s this ? @The_busarhz shut your shit in peace and leave me alone 🤣

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@The_busarhz My fancy girlfriend. Love you my Hitta ❤️

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

Ya Allah, it’s me again.
I’m here to simply Thank you for this unpromised day. Thank you for All you you do for me

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@havenstravel Can people in the uk apply for this

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@The_busarhz But we have money now, let’s join the challenge 🤣🤣

[Ìfẹ́ @diaryofa9jagirl]

I remember asking someone if he could ever grow to fall in love with me. He said to me, “That’s such a sad question to ask.” I agreed with him, it was sad, especially because I never doubted myself anywhere else, except with him. I found myself waiting for my love to be reciprocated while I gave all of my heart and continued to be anxious, wondering if this person I love so much would do the same. I could feel the emotional vacuum that was sitting there, not knowing if it would ever be filled.

I’d spend so much time criticizing myself for feeling anxious about the relationship, this would result in me feeling ashamed of myself for even wondering if someone could ever love a whole amazing me.

If you’ve never asked this question, DO NOT do it. If you have, NEVER ask again. Emotional safety is key in fostering any sort of relationship, I didn’t feel it, was why I asked in the first place but I know now that the question was unnecessary.
Here's from me to you:

1. First practice self-compassion. Be kind and understanding with yourself when you’re struggling rather than harsh and judgmental. There’s a reason you don’t feel safe enough, but whatever that reason is, still show yourself enough compassion that you show others. tell yourself, "It's okay. I'm not perfect. I also know I'm capable of doing better."

2. Stop asking for reassurance: Come off it jor! The problem with reassurance-seeking is that you’re training yourself to depend on your partner to feel good. And by extension, absolutely kills your confidence in your ability to feel good and get on with things on your own. When you're in this situation, each time you ask for reassurance, it’s a vote of no confidence in yourself.

3. Stop WORRYING about the future of the relationship. Most times, when you approach with worry and anxiety, communication is frustrating because it’s hard to be focused and say what you NEED to say, you’ll mostly find yourself rambling on and on rather than making sense. This is another recipe for conflict- conflict with your partner, conflict within yourself. Instead of worry, practice healthy detachment and enjoy every moment.

4. Ask for what you want assertively: I know that feeling insecure makes it hard to ask for what you want assertively. For a long time, you have put your partner’s needs ahead of yours, focusing on what they want, and what they’d like… and you find that these sorts of people always choose themselves first while you put yourself second. It may be hard for you but it’s time to start practicing it. For example: “I’d like us to hang out more.” “I don’t feel comfortable with the way you come home late, I’d feel better if you came at earlier times.” “I’d like you to be more affectionate in public, it is important to me.”

If your wants are needs seem like too much to your partner, you may have to come to a healthy compromise that doesn’t make you feel like you betrayed yourself.

5. Be less dependent on them to make you happy: Being assertive will gradually restore your confidence in that relationship and begin to dissolve your fear so you find that you don’t need them as much to fill your happy cup. The richer and more confident your sense of self is, the healthier and happier your relationship will be. There are so many things and people in your life that can bring excitement and happy experiences. Tap into them while still finding joy in your relationship.

6. Finally and most importantly, Stop getting involved with emotionally immature people: No matter what other qualities a person has, if they’re emotionally immature, your relationship is going to be tough. You go complain tire, they will not get it. It’s in your best interest to bring up issues and address them plainly and respectfully with your partner then watch how they handle it. If your partner can’t handle reasonable criticism or complaints, you’re setting yourself up for a very stressful, frustrating, lonely, and unhappy relationship.

Baby girl, your emotional safety is mainly about you, your behaviour, and how YOU CHOOSE to address your experiences with your partner, they can’t do much to help you there.

NEVER FORGET: You are as important as your partner. You deserve love and should never have to doubt that or beg for it. Maybe love isn’t where you’re planting it but you’ll never know if you don’t believe that you’re worthy!

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

Quran 3:145 ;
if anyone of you desire a reward in this life , we shall give to him;and if any of you desire a reward in the hereafter , we shall give to him and swiftly shall we reward those that (serves us with) gratitude.

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@__Folarin__ How , you sef be big man now 🤣

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@FineSoph Na me and you fry use this account, you can’t tell me otherwise. Happy birthday baby 🤍

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@The_busarhz Sure baby, my right hand girl 🩵

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

Alhamdullilah, I got balloons today.
+1-1

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

@The_busarhz We glue for life my dearest friend. Thank you for being an amazing soul. LOVEEEEEE YEW ❤️

[sophyarh @FineSoph]

Fabiayyi alaa rabbikuma tukaththiban ( which of the favours of my lord will I deny). Alhamdullilah for another year round the clock. Kindly say a word of prayers for me if you love me and this comes across your timeline.
+1-1 (HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME)