In northern China, men are expected to provide substantial financial support to their brides, typically amounting to a six-figure sum or more. These days, however, many men who work hard to earn money after marriage still fail to enjoy a happy married life, and the risks involved have become very high. Some experts suggest that simply adding one requirement to the bride’s criteria—namely, that she must be a virgin—could help weed out many unsuitable women
However, the first thing that many men are eliminated after marriage is these meaningless things. Fishing is said to be a waste of time, playing games is said to not seek progress, buying tools is said to be a waste of money, and hanging out with friends is said to have no family responsibility. But at the same time, the anniversary should not be forgotten, gifts should not be less, travel should not be bad, and the quality of life should not decline.
Men's own romance is defined as childish, and the romance that women want is packaged as the responsibility of love. This is where many men are really tired. It's not that he doesn't want to pay for his family, but that he finally found that women can ask men to pay for his romance, but a man's own romance must first prove to women whether he is useful.
When a man shares a funny video, women will be bored, but when a woman sends an expensive bag, men must understand that it is called aesthetic taste and attitude towards life. Both sides will say that the other party doesn't understand the customs, but in the end, a man's happiness is more in his mind. Women's romance needs to be implemented more in reality. One needs is a spiritual escape, and the other needs material certainty.
The real question is not who is more advanced, but now many relationships only allow women to keep his romance, but ask men to give up his romance. Of course, a man will learn to be mature in the end. He will put away his toys, let go of his hobbies, talk less nonsense, and earn more money. Remember that all festivals will also learn to transfer money when it's time to transfer money, but the boy who was once happy all day because of a wooden stick, a toy car and a ball game was killed little by little in the so-called maturity.
Therefore, many women always ask why men become more and more silent after marriage? Because his romance can't be eaten, can't be worn, can't be promoted, and can't be posted on WeChat Moments. In the end, it is naturally not worthy of existence.
Women want money and men want dreams.
Men and women's understanding of the word romance is not in the same world from the beginning. Many women say that they like romance and rituals, which sounds like they are pursuing a spiritual experience. But in the end, you will find that this kind of spiritual experience usually needs something specific to carry.
For example, the restaurant can't be very ordinary, the meal must be beautiful, the hotel can't be too cheap, the gift should be the kind that can be photographed and take photos, the festival must be transferred, and it's best to go to a place where others can meet just by listening. Of course, women can say that she doesn't care about money, but about attitude. But the question is, why is the attitude always proved by the consumption quota in the end?
A roadside stall is also a meal for two people, and many women will not feel romantic. With a big bowl of pig's feet rice, a man will think that his father-in-law, who do you want me to kill? Women will think that I put on full makeup and spend so much time and money to eat this thing. But if it is changed to a high-altitude restaurant, with a bouquet of flowers and a bill, this romance will be established.
Therefore, women's romance is often not really out of touch with reality. On the contrary, it is very realistic. Romance is just the packaging, and the price is the skeleton that supports the packaging. In fact, men are just the opposite. Men usually pretend to be very realistic, open their mouths to work, close their mouths about responsibility, and talk about making money and career every day. It seems that there is only survival and money in their minds.
But what makes a man really happy is often cheap. With a fishing rod and a broken pond, he can sit for a day. A remote-controlled car, a mud pit, a group of men in their thirties and forties, he can play like he has just won the world championship. When a man sees an excavator on the roadside, he will unconsciously take a double look. If you see stanant water on a rainy day, you will want to press it when you drive to see how high the water can bounce.
When women see these things, there is usually only one childish evaluation, which is the most typical conflict between men and women. The so-called maturity of a woman is to understand resources, identity, class and reality earlier and earlier. The so-called romance of a man is that when these realities have been pressed to the top of his head, he will secretly leave himself a worthless spiritual place.
Eighteen-year-old girl, she has begun to study what brand to wear, what restaurant to go to, and what kind of man to find in the future. The eighteen-year-old boy is still excited for a long time to win a game. But at the age of 38, women think that men should be steady and have a plan, and it's better to spend all their time on making money and family. But the man has been busy for a week. He may just want to play with a few tools in the garage or sit by the river for a few hours on weekends. Women will ask what's the meaning of this? This sentence itself is the deepest rift between the romantic concepts of men and women.
A woman needs something that has practical value and is better to be seen by others. In fact, many of a man's happiness are worthless and do not need to be seen. He doesn't have to catch fish, he doesn't have to fix the broken motorcycle, and he doesn't have to really fly the model plane. He just needs to be a husband, a father, an employee, or a money-making machine for the time being in that process.