50/50 Men Who Disappear When It's Time to cook and clean.
I have no problem with men who want to do 50/50 with their wives.
My issue is simple: don't be a 50/50 man only when money is involved and then vanish when it's time for house chores. And don't expect your wife to be your personal cook. Cooking should be rotated. Both of you take turns.
If you want 50/50, do it from top to bottom, finances to house chores:
If your wife is cleaning the bedroom, you should be washing the toilet.
If she's cooking, you should be washing the plates.
If she goes to the market, you should do the cooking.
You should also carry pregnancy. Oh wait, you can't. So maybe stop acting like she's doing nothing.
If she's bathing one child, you should be bathing the other.
If she cooks today, you cook tomorrow.
If she's sweeping, you should be mopping.
If she's paying school fees for one child, you should be paying for the other.
If she's washing clothes, you should be rinsing and spreading them on the line.
That is what real 50/50 should look like. Not just when money is involved.
You want your wife to match you financially but the moment it's time to clean, cook, or carry responsibility around the house, suddenly you become a "traditional man".
You don't get to pick and choose. Either you are all in or you are not. You cannot be progressive with her income and primitive with her labour.
Something is wrong with that picture. Fix it.
Above all, love God.
He died on Tuesday.
You went clubbing on Thursday.
You were dancing on Snapchat 2days ago. You said absolutely nothing on Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and even all day on Friday.
You became shattered on Friday night.
Is God not wonderful?
Eyin jonmo edakun e gbe oluwa tobi!
Indians come to Canada, create a community & proper. Go to Brampton, you’d see.
The Chinese do the same. Go to Markham.
Collectivism continue to make these group of people prosper. Growing businesses & dominating.
But individualism will be the peril of the African community.
A lot of States have appointed commissioners but there are no debates on the quality of commissioners at the state level. States can appoint dummies and misfits, the ministerial list is what concerns everyone.
In your state, your commissioners for Health, Agric, Education, Finance, Budget and planning, Energy, Environment, and Infrastructure are more important to your existence than any Federal minister.
We are not ready for this restructuring.