did you know that the suffering you endured could have erased ancestral karmic debt and blessed your entire bloodline with guaranteed success for generations to come???
normalize saying “unfortunately you’re no longer a safe person for me and I refuse to continually sacrifice my nervous system to make you feel comfortable”
One thing people need to understand about extremely kind, nice, and loving people, is that their other side is just as extreme. It's their moral compass that makes them gentle. Don't mistake their self-control for weakness.
bell hooks wrote, “Sometimes people try to destroy you, precisely because they recognize your power — not because they don’t see it, but because they see it and they don’t want it to exist.”
Good people have high levels of empathy, but once that empathy is exhausted, they switch to a state of objective observation. They see you for exactly who you are, without the filter of their love. This is why their anger feels so cold, it is the absence of the warmth you took for granted
Nah. 27-33 aren't your humbling years. They're your awakening years.
So many people misunderstand this phase of life.
That's when you start seeing things clearly. Everything suddenly dawns on you. You realize what you want, what doesn't matter, and how much time you've wasted.
Some people mistake that clarity for failure because they wish they had figured it out earlier.
But if you're determined, you can build more in those few years than you did in your entire early twenties.
You don’t just marry a person.
You marry your childhood wounds.
Gabor Maté explains why we’re often drawn to partners who trigger our deepest unresolved pain, because that’s where we’re still desperately trying to get the love we missed as kids.
He and his wife of 55 years both married their parents’ dysfunctions. The relationship either breaks you… or forces you to grow up together.
The person who feels most “right” can also bring your worst nightmare, and that’s where the real work begins.
What’s your honest take, do we tend to choose partners who echo our childhood wounds?
"I spoiled my mom. At one point she had like 15 cars. I'd pull up in a Bentley, she'd say 'Son I want that one too.' I'd go buy her another one. She already had 15. I wanted everybody happy. But I was crippling people. The real mark of a man is accountability. I was out of control. Thought I'd play forever... then God put me in check. That money got funny."
"This hits hard.... a lot of us come from families where as soon as you get a little money, everybody lines up with their hand out. You think you're being a good son or daughter. Really you're creating dependents who never learn to stand on their own."
—Allen iverson