Gary McFarlane, The Kairos Centre

Relationship & Sex Therapist working with Sex, Porn & Love addition via encrypted webcam and phone throughout the country & Abroad.

[Gary McFarlane, The Kairos Centre @GaryMcFarlane]

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Each stage has its own issues that may need help to negotiate through. But what if a partner is going through Life Stage changes in different ways and at different points in life?

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So, my question is - when Sex/Porn addiction triggers arise and you 'Act out', is the fact of Acting out, an indication that you have just Trashed all of you Values?

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So, my question is - when it is not the cool light of day; when you are a little emotional... are you actually trashing your Values?

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When Core motional Needs are depleted and at reserve levels, we will do one of three things to try to get them met, since they are not negotiable. Critical levels will see us doing Fight, Flight and/or Freeze.

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The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast
Enjoy this bonus episode from an interview about my life's journey!
In this very personal and up close interview of me and my journey through childhood, adulthood and life,

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Who! Me! - Passive Aggressive fight - Nay not me
What is passive-aggressive behaviour? Do you fight like this?
Passive-aggressive behaviour is when you express negative feelings indirectly

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Let's talk about how well you really know yourself. Remember that the addiction behaviours are all about self-soothing to manage emotions; a time of escape

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Core Emotional Needs

Which are your top 3 Core Emotional Needs? Is it Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security or Support?

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“I’m the author of my own life story.

Unfortunately, I’m writing in pen

and I can’t erase my mistakes

but my future will be better than my past.”  - Mr Meet

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That which you cannot seen, you have no hope of changing. Change begins when you can see some things. Therapy with The Kairos Centre involves working with the unconscious, the unseen, the invisible.

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The world's finest Apple - who me?
The Law of Sustainment refers to the principle that your ability to maintain progress towards your goals is closely tied to your self-image and identity.

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My Brain And Heart Divorced – John Roedel

My brain and heart divorced a decade ago over who was to blame about how big of a mess I have become

eventually, they couldn’t be in the same room with each other

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Many people think that pornography consumption is harmless. Studies, however, have proven that regular consumption can have a negative impact on the brain. Prolonged exposure can alter brain structures,

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NARCISSISM versus EMPATHY
The antidote to Narcissism is Empathy. (Sympathy and Empathy are very different). Narcissism and Empathy cannot co-exist at high levels together in the same person. (Both cannot be seen...

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The Sex, Porn and Love Addiction Podcast
Here is my formula - as we look at Narcissism:
SHAME + NARCISSISM = SEX, PORN, LOVE ADDICTION

I am not saying that those with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction are Narcissists.

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Call for truth and reconciliation for church personnel facing sex addiction - Sign the Petition! https://t.co/ZLAemJbqyH via @UKChange
Every church in the UK is to set a 30 days period of amnesty during a month in 2027. During that time frame, there will be no reprisal for.....

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Sex - Addict, maybe you really are not yet at the 'ACTION' stage, as you think you are! 'Tools for 'ACTION' won't work if that is not the STAGE you are at.

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Love me in five ways: (See my Book - The Art of Loving)
Most of us operate out of emotional love. Our love is conditional. Loving self comes first.